It's Never OK for a Man to Hit a Woman -- No Matter What Whoopi Goldberg Says

Whoopi GoldbergWhoopi Goldberg made the news again for saying something that could be considered derogatory toward women. Last week, ESPN host Stephen A. Smith made some very controversial comments about how women may provoke men to domestic violence. He apologized on Monday, but rather than just leaving it alone, Whoopi defended his original remarks on The View this week.

She said that women should not be surprised to be hit by a man if they are the first ones to strike. "If you hit somebody, you cannot be sure you are not going to get hit back!" she said.

Wow. Did she really just advocate for violence against women? Jenny McCarthy and guest co-host Sunny Hostin immediately pushed back, saying Goldberg was blaming the victim, but the she wouldn't be persuaded.

She did insist that no one should be hitting anyone, but also said:

If you make the choice as a woman who’s four foot three and you decide to hit a guy who’s six feet tall and you’re the last thing he wants to deal with that day and he hits you back, you cannot be surprised!

I'm not even sure where to go with this. First let's make the caveat that domestic abuse can happen to anyone -- male or female, and it should always be taken seriously.

But let's dive into the idea that it seems to be perfectly acceptable in Whoopi Goldberg's world for a six-foot man to hit a four-foot-three woman in any way, shape, or form. It doesn't matter what that lady does, he is much bigger, and more likely than not, much stronger than her. Should she have hit him in the first place? No. Does she deserve to be hit? Absolutely not.

If for some reason, this fictitious female is a bit psycho, and goes full throttle attacking her man, he has every right to pin her down with necessary force until she's subdued or backups arrive, but none of that involves hitting her.

It is never OK to hit another person, even if they hit you first. Same thing goes for women -- if you're hit, you have every right to defend yourself, but retaliation is a whole 'nother thing.

Do you think it's ever OK or acceptable for a man to hit a woman?


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codfish codfish

She isn't condoning domestic violence. She is saying what women need to hear however. If you hut someone, regardless of gender, do not be surprised when they bit back.

Just because you are female does not mean you have the right to put your hands on others.

Mrscj... Mrscjones

I agree with her completely. I was raised don't hit someone unless you're willing to be hit back. If we arguing and you hit me how is my first response not to hit you back. Maybe if more women thought like this they wouldn't be willing to hit a man just because you're a woman. Sorry but disagree with you totally. Also how would a woman defend herself against a man without hitting him especially if he's bigger. Men are human beings just like us because our hit may not hurt as much doesn't mean you have the right to hit someone without retaliation.

nonmember avatar Jocelyn

I fully agree with Whoopi.

nonmember avatar mel

Yeah.... I understand where she's coming from. Man or not ... humans have reflexes. Sometimes my kid hits me and I almost reflex and hit her back but then I come to my senses. For a split second though it's almost like my reflexes don't give a sh*t who hit me . I don't even spank my kid .. ever ... So yeah I get what she's saying .

Lisatron Lisatron

She isn't saying women deserve to be hit. Her phrasing is poor, but what I believe she is attempting to say is that if women don't want to be hit they shouldn't be hitting other people.

Women want equality, but that won't happen so long as women want to be able to strike a man and not be hit back.

I prefer the old addage that you should treat people the way you want to be treated; a man should NEVER strike a woman, but a woman should also NEVER strike a man.

IKnow... IKnow0101

Sorry man or woman you have the right to defend yourself. Now it would be nice if a man can keep the defense at a minimum but both genders are becoming more violent and if someone touch me I have every right to defend myself. Women wants equal treatment so there u go.

AliPa... AliParker

I'm glad to see a lot of women agreeing with what she said. I agree with her completely. And to say she is "blaming the victim" is such pure ignorance. It gives women such a bad name to act like we are always the victim. Even if we hit or attack a person and he hits back, we are the victim?! Bullshit.

I agree a lot with codfish and iknow0101.

nonmember avatar Victoria

If you throw the first punch you are not the victim! It's not victim blaming to say if you hit someone then you get hit back, well, you kinda deserve it! Keep your hands to yourself and you won't have an issue. Domestic violence goes both ways after all. No one should be hitting anyone, but if they do, they should expect to get hit back.

D.j. Lord

if you put your hands on someone that person has a right to defensive..sorry to tell you,jenny

nonmember avatar Elise

If you hit somebody and they knock you on your arse, then you deserve it. My brother has slugged a girl in the guts, she was trying to stab him with a broken wine glass (unprovoked, she was drunk and mistook him for her ex). Should he have just stood there and let her stab him?

There is a huge difference between domestic violence and the incidence where a man hits a woman because she hit him first. And some of these women are complete psychos!

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