'16 and Pregnant' Recap: Jazmin's Strict House Rules Are Hurting the Family

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So often, we see the dads of 16 and Pregnant bail on their responsibilities, but Jazmin's episode tonight showed us the positive side of teen parents. And then also what happens when they have to deal with their own teenhood as they start parenting.

The 17-year-old from Missouri met her boyfriend, Dell, on Twitter. They hit it off almost immediately, and despite her family's strict rules, they got pregnant. Even though Jazmin's mom and stepdad set very harsh rules (the kids can't be in the house alone, Dell needs permission to enter, he can't stay past 10 p.m., and there is absolutely, positively, definitely no sex), Jazmin and her boyfriend clearly broke them. Especially the last.

Needless to say, Jazmin's parents were upset, and even though she was already pregnant (seriously, the worst already happened), they refused to change the rules of the house to accommodate the growing young family. That meant that Dell still had to call one hour before planning on coming over, had to get permission, and could not stay past curfew.

But even with the most stringent rules in place, the couple continued to stay together and even made plans for the future. Jazmin enrolled in homeschooling so she could graduate on time with her class (though her plans of being a cardiovascular perfusionist were quickly foiled) and Dell found a job to save money for their baby daughter.

Not too shabby for a couple of teenagers, and after a baby shower, they seemed to be fairly prepared for when the baby arrived. And quickly after, Laila made her debut into the world.

Not long after they returned home with their daughter, the problems began again. Even after repeatedly asking for permission to make the rules just a tad more lenient (seriously, would 10:01 hurt anyone?), Jazmin's parents were unwilling to budge. The trust was broken and mom even said that they were "not willing to alter the landscape of our house because you all couldn't exhibit self control." Rough, while slightly true. Nothing, it seems, was going to change.

Jazmin wasn't willing to fight her parents on the issue either. And her relationship with Dell quickly went from "romantic to business," as she said. And it couldn't be more true. Mom and dad set the rules and the couple was forced to abide by them, especially since Jazmin's parents also refused to allow the couple to move in together.

So now they continue to parent Laila apart. Dell is allowed to visit but must still work around Jazmin's house rules. Good luck to them, because this'll take a ton of patience.

Do you think Jazmin's parents were too strict?

 

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nonmember avatar Stella

The damage is done. The parents need to let this young man be apart of his daughters life. They should be happy with the fact that he is trying so hard when so many other young men leave their child and child's mother to fend for themselves.

mlg1989 mlg1989

Whatever, in a year she can move out and say fuck em. They clearly want respect and control in their own home, which is understandable, however I think they are just being stubborn about the situation and are just being super overbearing.

kayba... kaybayblee3

I agree with Stella. Look at what good their strict rules did in the first place. Not saying they're to blame, but obviously the damage is already done. Their daughter got pregnant and her boyfriend is at least trying to have a relationship with their child and granddaughter.

Jessy76 Jessy76

The parents are foolish to think these rules are helping. If the rules worked in the 1st place the kids wouldn't be parents now. Adjusting the rules to make life work for everyone IS a good thing. The child is here it's time to make the best of a bad situation.

marks... markslovelylady

The parents are trying to make their relationship hard. They might as well break up. If I was the boyfriend I'd have the baby some nights and tough if she doesn't like it. Her overbearing family is the problem. I hope she moves out soon. Why can't she live with the boyfriend?

nonmember avatar Mandy

The crazy rules are probably the reason she got pregnant in the first place!

smjon... smjones85

When you restrict kids too much you end up making them more interested in wanting to do it. Great parenting is when you find that fine line between freedom and restraint. My kids will know that sex has dangers attached to it and I would rather they wait for it until they are able to deal with the results of sex both emotionally and physically. However, I am not naive enough to think I could stop them from doing it if they really wanted to, so I am arming them with the right information and resources so when they time comes for them to decide what is right for them it will be THEIR decision.

nonmember avatar kelli meiann

The House Rules are what got them in this situation. God can't stop conception. So saying you have to answer to God in your house as a reason for tearing up a family and potentially cause this baby to be away from her father which in itself can cause so many issues its not even funny is not how to deal witg this! The only out come is the child suffers. Your pushing away a male who wants to be there and cause striff with him and the women he will have to deal with forever. All the dead beat dads and your trying to make him one. Hes young what if he says this is too hard I'll stop trying. What then?

JaviandJen Tapia

Dell is doing his best to be a good father. Too bad the grandparents are too condescending to see that. Nobody's perfect and they need a dose of reality. Most men just walk away. It sucks that the good men always get treated bad and finish last.

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