Eminem Targets His Mom in Heart-Crushing 'Headlights' Release (VIDEO)

Eminem HeadlightsHave you heard Eminem's song "Headlights" off his new-ish album, The Marshall Mathers LP 2? It's about his dysfunctional relationship with his mother, Debbie Mathers, but unlike most of the other songs in his discography that have ripped her a new one (one example lyric of many: "But how dare you try to take what you didn't help me to get / You selfish b***; I hope you f***king burn in hell for this s***"), this one's essentially an open apology … and the Spike Lee-directed video takes things even further with a story that seems to take a major step towards reconciliation. (Or at least forgiveness.)

It's a powerful video, really. Raw and honest and the sort of thing that delivers a gut-punch to anyone with family issues, however different they may be. Oh, and here's something interesting: Eminem released it on Mother's Day.

Spike Lee is the creative mind behind the visuals in this clip, which is mostly shot from the first-person perspective of a character representing Eminem’s mother. The four-minute video delves into their troubled relationship, while Eminem raps and fun. frontman Nate Ruess delivers the hook. Here are some of the lyrics:

I went in headfirst
Never thinking about who what I said hurt, in what verse
My mom probably got it the worst
The brunt of it, but as stubborn as we are
Did I take it too far?
"Cleaning Out My Closet" and all them other songs
But regardless I don't hate you 'cause, Ma,
You're still beautiful to me, 'cause you're my mom

He tells her he forgives her, and talks about the absence of his father and the devastating impact that had on them both. He says he doesn't perform "Cleaning Out My Closet" any more at shows, and "I cringe every time it's on the radio."

Towards the end he says,

But I love you, Debbie Mathers, oh, what a tangled web we have

It's the last 40 seconds or so of the video that really get me, when he posts the lyrics like the open letter it is, and his mom picks it up and a tear drops onto the paper, and Ruess sings the final line: I want a new life.

Check it out:


Well, I'm crying. What did you think of this video?

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RiotP... RiotPixie

Not a big fan but he did a great job on it. I hope that they can reconcile and be in each others' lives again.

nonmember avatar Natalie Palmer

I really loved this video and the lyrics. It made me cry

Erin Butcher

I've always liked some of Eminem's music...he is a very talented man.  But this is on a whole new level.  It is beautiful and heart felt and I LOVE IT. 

Charl... Charlyla2

He is very talented and I think his lyrics hit the nail on the head, he had a dysfunctional childhood, it's bound to screw anyone up. At least he is admitting it and trying to heal from it.

Prett... PrettyShort

That was so sweet. I understand were he was coming from with the songs talking about his mother and how he grow up but, he didn't realize that his mom was doing the best she could without his father. Now he realizes he hurt his mom's feelings and it takes a real MAN be admit there faults... Good Job Eminem I love your music because you talk about your real life.... Happy Mother's Day Debbie Mathers!!!!

nonmember avatar me

Ive always liked eminem. I however never liked the songs where he talks about his mom, hoping shell be killed or raped etc. Even if u have issues, thats taking it too far. I however do like this song and I think it's great he didnt just talk to her privately or give an interview how he forgives her, he put it out there in a song, just like he did before with the other songs.

1Tall... 1TallMamaCA

He finally got help, thats why he went to rehab, even the drugs weren't helping. His new albums amazing. It shows hes finally come to terms.

lasombrs lasombrs

I have always liked him but really enjoy his new work. I think it's great he has come so far despite his upbringing and it's good he has reached a point where he can forgive.

Ida May Mcdivitt

OMG!!!  I feel like crying.  Great video for his mom. 

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