Do you happen to remember when Jim Carrey posted that super-uncomfortable video letter to Emma Stone, in which he said that she was "All the way beautiful, not just pretty"? He went on to tell her she was also smart and kindhearted, and "If I was a lot younger, I would marry you. We would have chubby and little freckle-faced kids.” Carrey eventually explained that the clip was just a joke (?), but I'm kind of coming around to his point of view. I mean, the part where he admires her, not his creepy desire to show his admiration by impregnating her.
Emma Stone really is a pretty crushworthy actress: she's funny, she has epic lip sync battle skills, and she really does seem to be smart and kindhearted -- particularly when you read her recent interview on being criticized for her body.
Stone recently opened up to Seventeen about dealing with being called "too skinny" by online haters:
I’ve seen articles or comments that have addressed my weight, or ‘caving to pressure to be thin.’ Keeping weight on is a struggle for me — especially when I’m under stress, and especially as I’ve gotten older. That’s the way my genes have decided to go, and things will change as time goes on, as does everything. So when completely untrue statements are made about me or my health, of course a part of me wants to defend. Thing is, people have a right to imagine what they want to imagine. My job at those moments is to tell myself the truth. Am I taking care of myself in a healthy way? Am I respecting myself and being responsible? And over and over, I answer yes to that question. Then I remind myself to be kind to myself, and as slightly ridiculous as it may sound, to treat myself in the same gentle way I’d want to treat a daughter of mine. It really helps.
Stone touched on the toxic nature of negative body scrutiny ("We're always too skinny or too fat or too tall or too short. We're shaming each other and we're shaming ourselves, and it sucks"), and admitted that there are times when the backlash hits home:
Sometimes it’s really easy to shrug it off and other times, things have pinched more. I think most of us are like that, right? Someone lobs a snide remark your way, and sometimes you can laugh about it, while other times you can actually feel the sting.
I love that she's so honest about this topic, and I particularly like what she had to say about why we see so many online barbs:
People insult each other based on their own insecurities — even though it may feel personal, it really never is. Really.
I completely agree. It's a difficult point of view to embrace when you're on the receiving end of some nasty comments, but it really is true. People who go out of their way to spew hatred online aren't happy people. Their criticism, as ugly and outward-facing as it may seem to be, is nothing more than a reflection of their own self-esteem.
Emma Stone seems to have a pretty good head on her shoulders, and I admire the fact that she's willing to talk about this stuff with her young female fans. Here are her final inspiring words on body image, empowerment, and self-awareness:
I’m actively working hard on learning to appreciate yourself no matter what. If what someone else says can easily derail you, it means your sense of self isn’t that firmly established in the first place. It’s an inside job. You’re beautiful and worthy and totally unique. (...) There’s a sense that we’re all ‘too’ something, and we’re all not enough. This is life. Our bodies change. Our minds change. Our hearts change. Things are always evolving. I hope we can be supportive of each other and try to really have each other’s backs, especially when we don’t know the whole story.
Here is what I think about your Seventeen interview, Emma Stone, and the overall fact that you exist:
Are you an Emma Stone fan? What do you think of her comments on body shaming?
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