About a month ago, Sarah Jessica Parker had some fightin' words for someone that tweeted her about something that she obviously took offense to. Although the user almost immediately deleted her tweet, SJP called it "outrageous and vulgar" and "uninformed and unkind."
The Sex and the City actress has finally cleared up what all the brouhaha was about -- apparently someone was questioning the parentage of her twin daughters with husband Matthew Broderick, who were born via a surrogate. The star has been vocal in the past about her daughters' DNA -- half hers and half Broderick's.
The celebrity couple welcomed Marion and Tabitha to their brood in 2009 thanks to the help of a woman who agreed to carry the children to term for them. They had tried for years unsuccessfully to get pregnant again after the birth of their son James Wilkie in 2002 and eventually decided to go the surrogate route.
SJP was understandably upset when she came across the random tweet suggesting that she wasn't really her twins' mom.
I kept scrolling and then I was like, ‘Wait a minute, did she just say that?' I went back and I thought, 'Well, this isn't unhealthy paranoia, this is absolutely conscious. This was a choice.' She, not subtly at all, said that my children are not my children.
There have been a few -- let's say half a dozen -- times in my career when I have wanted to respond. I don't want to encourage people picking on her, because that's no better ... but I wrote back, 'What? Like, is this fun?'
I can't figure out what she hated so much about me that she did that. And I just can't imagine anything lower than that ... I don't think you can be like that without thinking about what you are saying. Other people can be mean, and that's something I just have to make peace with. That was my worry before engaging in social media; I was afraid of it. I see mean stuff every day: when I look at Twitter I scroll with one eye open and one closed. That particular day, it was just one of the things I saw.
For the mom of three, it was more than just a personal attack. She explained that she can't stand to see women bashing each other. "Why does it have to be like that?" she asked. "Why do we go from [I disagree with you] to I hate you, I attack you, I use words that I know are hurtful? And we've never met! You'd think at this point in my life I would be accustomed [to it], but we keep finding new ways of expressing ourselves, new outlets to be unfriendly and cruel."
Preach it, sister. Questioning how another mom came to be a mother is just about as condescending and judgmental as you can get in the Mommy Wars. Whether it's by careful fertility planning, a forgotten dose of birth control, adoption, surrogacy, donors ... it doesn't matter. Those kids are our kids, and most moms are usually quite proud of how they came to be. Insinuating that someone isn't a "natural" mom because she didn't conceive the old-fashioned way or even carry the baby herself is just plain rude.
Good for Sarah Jessica standing up for all moms by calling out this person's unsavory remarks.
Do you think it makes someone less of a mom if she didn't carry her babies herself?
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