Kirsten Dunst Deserves Backlash Over Obnoxious Gender Comments

Kirsten DunstIt's been a while since actress Kirsten Dunst has been in the headlines, but I'm guessing she's going to get quite a bit of attention for the recent comments she made to Harper’s Bazaar UK. It turns out that Dunst is quite the traditionalist when it comes to gender roles, which wouldn't necessary be such a controversial thing to admit -- if she hadn't taken things a step too far by implying that everyone needs "a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman."

Oh dear. I'm not saying a politically correct shitstorm is for sure coming her way, but ... well, let's just say I hope Dunst also embraces that other traditional belief: there's no such thing as bad publicity.

Here are a few of the thoughts on gender and femininity that Dunst covers in the May issue of Harper’s Bazaar UK:

I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued.  We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking -- it's a valuable thing my mom created.

Okay, that's not too bad. I'm not sure I totally understand the point she's making -- that if women's feminine qualities weren't so undervalued, we could all stay home nurturing instead of having careers? That preparing food and caring for children is "feminine"? -- but I can understand the perspective that she has great admiration for what her mother did.

Unfortunately, she didn't stop there.

And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armor. I'm sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That's why relationships work.

Ummmm ...

Look, there's no law against believing that adhering to traditional gender roles is what makes your own relationship work. This is America, land of the free, and Kirsten Dunst has every right in the world to feel that way and also maybe to engage in a little fairy tale fantasy sexytime as per Cosmo's instructions: You're the virginal princess, and he's the prince charming trying to rescue you from the evil queen.

But you don't really get to make blanket statements like "that's why relationships work" without a raft of outrage floating your way. Which relationships? The same sex ones? The transgender ones? The ones where Dad stays home with the kids? The ones involving a strong independent woman who doesn't rely on a knight in shining armor to make her happy?

There are lots of reasons why Kirsten Dunst's words are going to be offensive to people, and really, she should have known that. In fact, I'm pretty sure she knew exactly how she sounded, because that's the only reason to slip in a non-apology halfway through.

What do you think of Kirsten Dunst's comments?

Image via Harper's Bazaar

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nonmember avatar Jill

I see she hit a nerve with you. Lol

the4m... the4mutts

While I don't agree with her 100%, I agree with her right to say whatever, and feel whatever she wants. If she's not out gay bashing, or telling people they're going to hell, then even if she's against non-traditional relationships and lifestyles, that is HER right.

People don't all have to think the same way about everything.

Isn't diversity what makes us great?

After all, if people didn't do things that raised eyebrows, gossip bloggers like you would be out of a job.

Jacee... Jacee2348

Yeah, I just can't see too many being offended by this. These are HER opinions only. It seems nobody can speak what's on their mind any more without having to come back and make some kind of apology for offending the masses. I say to each his own way of thinking & living; no apologies necessary.

zandh... zandhmom2

I agree with her for ME. I like that my husband is a manly man.

Elaine Cox

that's it? THAT'S IT?..Linda oh Linda

Saphi... SaphiraJFire

She has a right to feel the way she does. 

This PC stuff is just a "Nice" way to Force people to think and feel the way you want them to.

She has a right to think any way she wants to. When you start telling her she is wrong to have her own opinion then you have stopped one of our most basic freedoms. 
Btw I have no opinion on what she said its how she feels and its works for her and is not hurting me or anyone else so what is the big deal? 

Angi Everett


1. It's her right to believe what she wants

2. There's no proof she actually said these words the way they were printed.  We all know how media likes to switch things up and leave things out.

lawye... lawyerwahm

 I applaud her for saying her opinion and admiring her mother.  I also agree with her. 


Jozemom Jozemom

Seriously????? Sometimes I think maybe life in America is too easy because people are just desperate for a reason to be be offended. She said she admires her mom, and it's not like her mom being a housewife prevented her children from attaining their dreams. 

nonmember avatar Thompson

I think this is an overplayed eyeroll/much ado about nothing column. But this feigned outrage worked because the author got all of us to read & react. :)

I think Kirsten's comments mirror what a lot of women I know are saying these days. That traditional male/female roles seem to work out just fine. That may not be the case for every women. And for those that disagree with Kirsten's comments, there is no need to over react. To each their own I say.

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