Juan Pablo Galavis may have sworn up and down at After the Final Rose that he and Nikki Ferrell just want to be "free" and see how their relationship fares in "private," now that his The Bachelor disaster aventura is over. But apparently, that (and the fact that they aren't even engaged yet!) hasn't stopped them from sitting down with marriage counseling duo Jim and Elizabeth Carroll, who happen to be affiliated with another reality show, Marriage Boot Camp, which airs on WE tv.
Now, Jim and Elizabeth are dishing about what challenges they found JuanPabs and Nikki are up against as they try to make a go of this relationship ...
I think they have marriage on their minds, but I think what Juan did was a really, I mean it wasn’t a very romantic fairytale ending, but I think what he did was very wise in the fact that he said you know, 'I want to go through conflicts with this girl. I want to do some problem solving, I want to see basically what the ugly side is before I jump out there and tell somebody I love them and just get married.'
Fine, fair enough. In fact, I applaud the decision to hold off on getting engaged, too. At the same time, it sounds like the they really may not be built to last as a couple ...
Jim continued, revealing:
He is a very strong leader, he’s masculine, he doesn’t like to compromise a whole lot, and he’s got a good value system. Nikki is more nurturing, sympathetic, and she’s more feminine in her values. So when you put those two kind of people together the stronger one -- like Juan Pablo -- would tend to run over somebody like Nikki, if Nikki doesn’t have good boundaries.
Ack. Now, here's the thing ... I wouldn't be so quick to assume a relationship will bomb based on the fact that they have very different, perhaps even polar opposite personalities. That can work. Opposites do attract! My husband and I are definitely complete opposites in many ways (he's quiet, I'm a social butterfly; he doesn't like a lot of commotion, I'm a party girl; he is naturally tidy, I'm ... trying to be, etc.).
But even if you're totally different, you also need to be compatible AND feel like you can be 100 percent yourself, even if you aren't on the same page. It sounds like Nikki may be tamping down her personality and acting like a little mouse to suit JPG, and that's got "eww" written all over it ...
I get why they both might want to give this post-Bachelor relationship a whirl, but if it boils down to the fact that they're simply not a match, so be it. Let's hope they have the sense to own up to that rather than sticking together ... for the wrong reasons.
What do you think about the marriage counselors' observations about JPG and Nikki?
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