Juan Pablo’s Helicopter Ride With Clare Crawley Was Worse Than We Thought

clare crawleyWelcome to Hate on Juan Pablo Day, 2014. I'm thinking we may make this an annual thing, since Juan Pablo is the stand-in for every man who's ever wronged a woman -- and he can't stop, won't stop doing things that piss us off. Like what Juan Pablo told Clare in the helicopter in the finale. Remember how angry she was? Sweet Clare, who really did seem to be falling for the guy, despite all those Mr. Wrong signals he was giving off. If you weren't already thoroughly disgusted with this season's Bachelor, this one will definitely send you over the edge.

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Okay, so just in case you weren't watching, here's some context. On the show, Clare says Juan Pablo insulted her during an off-camera moment on their helicopter ride in St. Lucia. “Juan Pablo leaned over and whispered something to me. He chose to tell me something that no woman wants to hear,” she says in her "In The Moment" interview. “I almost ... I don’t have words for it, how I feel right now.”

WHAT!!! What did he say???

According to a insider, Clare was prodding Juan Pablo, saying, "Just tell me you love me." (Oh Clare ... ) And what did Juan Pablo say? "I really loved f---ing you."


Ohhh. That's really bad.

In the history of terrible things to say to emotionally vulnerable women asking men to love them, that's almost the worst thing you could possibly say. Even saying, "I didn't like f---ing you" would be better, because at least you wouldn't feel so used. Once again, Juan Pablo has played the slut card against Clare. And it must have hurt twice as much this time.

For the record, "I really loved f---ing you" actually IS something a lot of women want to hear. Just not under these circumstances. You can say that, guys, AFTER you've told us you love us about 800 times. Or after a one-night stand when we've just told you we had fun, and good luck with your life, and if we're ever in Cincinnati again, we'll look you up, like, maybe. You can say it then.

Otherwise, when someone asks you to tell her you love her, and you don't love her, here is the appropriate response:

God, I wish I could say that, Clare. You are so amazing, so worthy of love. I owe it to you to be honest with you, because I respect you so much. You deserve someone who truly loves you. There must be something wrong with me, because I just don't feel that way. I hope you find someone truly deserving of your big heart.

Now. Was that so hard? Honestly, I hope now that some time has passed and Clare has gotten some perspective, she'll see she dodged a bullet by not winning Juan Pablo's empty, shallow heart.

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How would you feel if someone told you what Juan Pablo told Clare?


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Vicki Krueger Kessler

That is a horrible comment, but shame on her for putting out without any certainties. She knew she wasn't the only woman he was seeing. I mean, really, it sounds desperate and classless.

Robin Glover Notenbaum

I agree....he seems to be quite the jerk and that was a rude comment, but has everyone forgotten that "sweet and innocent" Clare was the one that ran to his room and initiated the sex in the first place? Not too many guys in this world are going to turn it down so what did she expect?? She was just so egotistical that she thought she was the shit and there was no way he wouldn't pick her?! I think the way him and Nikki are going about this is great! After 12 seasons, how many "proposals" are actually still together?? Maybe if more people said hey I really like you and want to see where this goes....there would be more of them together!

Sandra Blake

I hate to be crude but didnt she take him on in the ocean?  Didn't she spend the night in the fantasy suite?  And he loved it.  Of course he loved it.  And from what I've heard about the show, the bachelor is not supposed to let any of the girls know what he feels about them til its over.  What did she expect? 


Sandra Blake

Oh and another thing.  Women call it making love.  What do men call it?  Oh yeah.  There you have it.

Analtha Moroffko

I would say I loved fucking you too, but that's all I love about you. I am leaving now, see ya.

nonmember avatar NK

Well, she slept with him without a commitment. What did she expect while on a reality show with a horde of ladies competing for the attention of one man? Seriously. Yeah, he's a jerk. But, that much should have been apparent previously.

Laura Kelly Pennington

He said what he meant and what he was feeling. I think he is being crapped on for being REAL. Gee Clare.... nothing like begging a guy to tell you they love you, just tell me already!!!! She gets what she deserves and hey, ;-) he gave her a compliment. He told her he loved it!!

nonmember avatar Nancy Christmas

To start with I would never go out with a man that acts so slutty, kissing is one thing but sayingi live you is sort of the thing that I think he was trying to sleep with me ndbthat would NEVER happen. Juan Pablo is a creep and a jerk.

Eileen Pasley Federico

It was rude, hurtful and unnecessary. He is a pig and an assclown!!

Andre... Andreamom001

If my husband said that to me (currently single), I wouldn't like the language, but I would appreciate the sentiment.   No one else would have the right to say such a thing since it would be entirely made up, and I'd know it.

Sex is not something I'd participate in without being married first.  (The guy sounds like a jerk, yes, but she sounds foolish, too.  I don't watch junky shows like that, so I don't know.)

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