Julia Roberts' Sister Dies Before They Were Able to Reconcile

julia robertsJulia Roberts' half sister Nancy Motes was found dead of an apparent drug overdose. She was 37. Motes was discovered by her fiance John Dilbeck on Sunday in a bathtub. Reportedly there were prescription and non-prescription drugs found at the scene. There will be an autopsy, but results could take weeks.

Julia and Nancy have the same mother -- Betty Lou Motes. Nancy was in the planning stages of her May wedding and also appeared to have been having issues with her famous sister as evidenced in several tweets over the last couple of months. The sibling feud was something mentioned many times over the years and anyone with sisters or brothers knows that these things happen. Family is family but sometimes not everyone gets along all the time. These issues the sisters appear to have had are probably going to be something that is going to deeply affect Julia for the rest of her life. Some of the last tweets Nancy sent out were apparent attacks at America's Sweetheart.

On January 19, Nancy wrote on her Twitter: "So my 'sister' said that with all her friends & fans she doesn’t need anymore love. Just so you all know 'America’s Sweetheart' is a B***H!!"

That tweet followed with, "Do you want to be a fan of someone so cruel? She’s not even that good of an actress. Happy you totally F***ed with me?" and "I must admit I maybe going to far ... But I never been so angry in my life. I’m actually a pretty easygoing, peaceful person."

Back in October she had written: "Feeling blessed, even though I’m sick as a dog! I’m very grateful that I have my loves family, since my own family has abandoned me."

But there were moments of love as well. On December 19, Nancy wrote: "I must remember how blessed I am even in this very low point in my life. I want ALL of my family to have an awesome magical Christmas!"

Last year, Nancy was quoted by the Daily News that her relationship with Julia was a work in progress. "It's not going to be fixed overnight," she shared. It was also said that Julia didn't want to attend her sister's wedding because she had issues with the groom. And the sisters have had other public debates -- most notably on Nancy's weight, which Julia reportedly criticized her about.

This is all just terribly sad. I hope the Motes and Roberts family are able to help each other through this very difficult time. From this, maybe we can all learn that we should continue to love each other even when someone seems unlovable. We all need support, the more successful sister, too -- everyone -- especially at our hardest times, even at the times it seems others are pushing us away.

Have you ever had a feud with members of your family? How do you resolve them?


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DKk0531 DKk0531

Yes. I had a feud with my brother from 2007-2012. I left for the navy in 2008 and we didnt speak for four years i dont really remember wht it was about. But in 2008 he broke up with his gf and moved back home woth my parents. Now we are the best of friends and have never been closer.

DKk0531 DKk0531

I ment 2012* he broke up with his gf

nonmember avatar blue

Not everyone has the desire to reconcile. I am estranged from my sister, because she is incredibly toxic and dysfunctional. I don't feel the need to reconcile with her, because she only adds heartache to my life. You are hearing one side of the story. I'm not a fan of Julia Roberts acting (don't know her as a person, obviously,) but from those tweets...I'm guessing it wasn't a bad idea to be estranged from the sister. She does have children to protect. Family can hurt us more than anyone else sometimes, we don't owe it to them to part of their destructive path.

adamat34 adamat34

Sometimes it's better to not be on contact but that doesn't seem to e he case here just had a falling out sorry to hear she passed.

lalab... lalaboosh

My siblings and I don't do well together, it's really rough. It gets really ugly between siblings, so I believe that Julia and Nancy probably said equally toxic things to and about each other. I obviously don't know Julia Roberts at all, but I don't doubt that her mean streak is tempered by a nice streak just like the rest of us. My sister and I have fortunately managed to get back to a good place, I wish everyone had peace in their families.

nonmember avatar sandy

Yep, I have a hard time with my brother, so i steer clear of him as much as possible. We have had a love-hate relationship since we were kids: part of the time, we were each other's best companions, and at other times the anger and bitterness and blame between us was so strong that I would become severely depressed or self-destructive. The last round, between May and December of 2013, occurred because he sent me a horribly sarcastic email about the smallest scheduling thing: I had had it with his biting remarks, so I just stopped communicating with him in any way. He has acted as if he can't understand why "I am pulling away." Frankly, my stress level has been substantially reduced since cutting off contact with him. He asked me out for a Christmas drink, and I said yes, only because I knew I would become the "bad guy" if I declined. It was fine but superficical, and I intend only to see him when and if absolutely necessary. The thing is, though, that I have enough good memories of time with him, and I do adore my niece (his daughter), so I stand at the ready if he or she should ever really need help in any serious way. Plus, our mother feels sad about our rift, so I don't like to make her unhappy. Family feuds are tricky, because they never really involve only two people: reverberations are felt throughout the family. All one can do is set boundaries, be as graceful and steady as possible, and try to avoid increasing any existing conflict.

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