Woody Allen's adopted daughter Dylan's accusation that he molested her as a 7-year-old has been tumultuous for so many reasons. For one, it spotlights the horrible crime of child molestation. For two, it brings up questions of credibility -- and whom to believe. There are those who adamantly believe Woody (such as Barbara Walters) and those who adamantly believe Dylan. But one person in this mess isn't getting much sympathy, and that is Mia Farrow, Dylan's mother and Woody Allen's former longtime girlfriend and mother of his three children (two adopted and one biological).
Now Woody's lawyer, Elkan Abramowitz, has appeared on Today to say that Mia is behind this whole thing, accusing her of "implanting" the ordeal in Dylan's mind.
I think it's part of Mia Farrow's desire to hurt Woody Allen. His reaction is one of overwhelming sadness because of what has happened to Dylan. She was a pawn in a huge fight between him and Mia years ago. The idea that she was molested was implanted in her mind by her mother. [Dylan]'s not lying, she truly believes this happened. That's what the vice of this is -- when you implant a story in the mind of a fragile 7-year-old ... it never goes away.
I try to think back to when I was 7 years old. Frankly, I cannot imagine anyone telling me to say something like that -- and then me actually saying it. And not only saying it, but sticking to the story for the next 20 years.
Granted, children do unfortunately occasionally get strong-armed into making false accusations. Take the woman who accused her father of raping her when she was 9. According to her, her drug-addicted mother threatened to beat her unless she told those lies. But the daughter almost immediately recanted when she was taken away from the mother's grasp and felt safe living with her grandmother. Unfortunately, the man remains in prison despite even the mother admitting she forced her daughter to lie.
Mia being held up as some sort of scornful, vengeful woman is horrible. Sure, she was pissed because her longtime companion began having a sexual relationship with her daughter -- wouldn't YOU be?!
But do you really think that this woman, who has adopted eleven children, including ones with severe handicaps, is going to permenently emotionally damage one of her kids for a little revenge? Lawyer Lisa Bloom writes how blaming the mom is a "tired, common strategy for those accused of sexual abuse."
Not to mention that Dylan wrote in her New York Times essay that Mia said something incredibly brave and loving to her. She wrote:
At one point, my mother sat me down and told me that I wouldn’t be in trouble if I was lying -- that I could take it all back. I couldn’t. It was all true.
Many have brought up elements from Mia's past (such as her youthful marriage to Frank Sinatra; her affair with Andre Previn, etc.) to discredit her. Mia sometimes doesn't help this reputation. There was really no reason to suggest in Vanity Fair that Woody's son, Ronan, might not be his, but Frank Sinatra's. If he is Frank's kid, just say so, don't drop coy hints.
So Mia is hardly perfect. But when you put her life up against most people's, she's a lot more perfect. This is a woman who works tirelessly for the poor, the handicapped, the abused and forgotten.
Allen makes great movies. And, at least according to Barbara Walters, he's a great dad to his two kids with Soon-Yi. But why is he considered so much more credible than Mia just because he makes movies? Like people who are talented can't be shitheads?! (Check out Pola Kinski's memoir about her famous dad, who she says was raping her the entire time the world was fawning over him for his incredible talent.)
And why is Woody sending his lawyer out to do the talking for him? Could it be because he might say something idiotic like he did when he tried to "defend" his relationship with Mia's daughter? ("I didn't find any moral dilemmas whatsoever," he said of beginning to sleep with the daughter of his son's mother. Gee, that wasn't worth a little heads up?)
I do not know what happened that day. But I do feel for Mia Farrow. I feel for Dylan. I feel for this entire family.
Do you think Mia is somehow "behind" everything?
Image via Splash News