Poor Tori Spelling. Despite doing everything she could to make Dean McDermott happy in the sex department despite being pregnant four times and almost dying in one of those pregnancies, apparently it wasn't enough for him. People magazine reports that Dean apparently cheated with a woman he met at a Toronto hotel because he just wasn't getting enough at home. The source says that Dean:
... has always been keen on having a very active and imaginative sex life.
Which is great and all except they have four kids.
This reason jibes with what the other woman, Emily Goodhand, said Dean told her. According to her, he confessed:
I love my wife. I love her so much, but she just won’t sleep with me.
The sources tell People, however, that Tori did everything she could to accommodate Dean's apparently insatiable sex drive, saying:
It’s always been important to her to keep her husband happy, even when it’s hard for her because she’s been sick or pregnant. So the fact that after all that, he cheated on her so publicly, is devastating.
Well, he didn't cheat on her publicly -- the woman went public. I don't know when famous dudes are gonna learn that they take a huge risk cheating. As long as tabs will pay for stories, there will always be other women willing to screw and tell.
And if Star magazine is to be believed (that's a big IF), this wasn't a one-time deal. Dean might have cheated repeatedly -- with both women and men.
If that's true, I hope Tori doesn't think rehab will change him. How sad.
But this is a common problem in relationships -- women are not only expected to bear the children, but take on most of their care, as well as work, run the house, and be sex sirens in the sack. It's just impossible! And yet women feel like if they can't do it all, the guy might step out on them. Let's see a guy get pregnant four times, give birth four times, have their bodies torn apart, almost die, breastfeed while running around after toddlers, work to bring home money, take care of the house, and then be rock hard and ready to go for hours like Christian Grey on a Viagra cocktail. I don't think so!
Part of being in a committed relationship is realizing and accepting that the relationship and its priorities change. That isn't to say that sex should disappear. But it's not going to be as frequent or spicy as it once was. That's just natural. And you set aside those sexual urges sometimes to support your spouse and keep the love and trust -- in other words, you sacrifice for your family. After all, is it THAT big a sacrifice?
Unfortunately, his cheating on her was supposedly something she "always feared." Tori reportedly said that she will "never trust Dean again."
Pals say they are working on the marriage, but it doesn't look good.
Dean just needs to grow up and realize that the world doesn't revolve around his John Thomas.
Do you have sexual disagreements with your spouse?
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