The 'Real' Reason Hilary Duff & Mike Comrie Split Sounds All Too Familiar

Hilary Duff and Mike ComrieI think it's safe to say that the entire world let out a collective gasp after news hit that Hilary Duff and husband Mike Comrie separated last week. The 26-year-old actress' rep told the media that the split was amicable and that they'll "remain best friends" as they co-parent their son Luca, who is now 21 months. Well now, a source tells Us Weekly that the reason Hilary and Mike split up is because "she felt he didn't put enough effort into the relationship," even after they tried counseling for 18 months.

Eeeesh, man, that's gotta be rough. I mean, on one side, Hilary no doubt loved Mike with everything she had, and if the duo really did go through counseling -- they both wanted to make things work. But at the end of the day, what really matters is how you feel in the relationship. It seems like Mike just couldn't make Hilary happy anymore.

Hilary and Mike are a prime example of what happens in many relationships as time goes on. It's not always as easy breezy as the honeymoon phase. People say that the spark goes away with time, but it doesn't have to if you and your partner are willing to put work into the relationship. Granted, the relationship also develops and matures (especially after having a child) and priorities change -- but that's why it becomes more and more important to communicate with one another about your needs and desires as time goes on.

Yet still, my heart breaks for Lizzie McGuire and her hubby. In Hollywood, four years isn't anything to laugh at necessarily. Heck, it's most certainly a whole lot better than Kim Kardashian's 72-day affair. But still, it's never fun seeing two A-listers go their separate ways. My heart's with 'em both.

Can you blame the duo for deciding to go their separate ways?


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Eddie... EddiesMama1983

I think far too many people believe that marriage is supposed to be "happily ever after". But like everything else in life, marriage takes work. You won't always feel warm and fuzzy for your spouse and that's normal!  I guess it's easier (nay! more desirable) to go after someone new who will give you that love rush. 

Krystian Kaufold

I agree with EddiesMama. 

You don't always feel warm and fuzzy about your spouse. 

I on the other hand, even when my husband pisses me the hell off to no end, I still get those butterflies/fuzzies in my stomach, even when we are fighting. 

I learned a great lesson last week at church.....everyone keeps saying marriage is based on being honest with each other....but you don't always have to be honest with each other. 

You don't need to tell your spouse how you feel about him/her ALL of the time.

Heavy... Heavy_Pipe

It doesnt sound like she was emotionally mature enough to be married. The guy was reportedly depressed after suffering a sudden career-ending injury. You help each other in situations like that, you dont file for divorce because its not 'fun' anymore.

Melissa Nicole

Very sad ,he just didn't listen I guess,or care enough too.maybe he'll come to his senses and his heart will speak up before it's gone gone forever..I think Hillary has a good heart.shes probably tired of him not showing enough growth on his own.

nonmember avatar Wag

It is sad that couples don't try harder to make things work. People think it's always going to honeymoon phase but it's not. It takes work to make a marriage work. My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. We have gone through bad times, good times, sad times, hurtful times, etc.. but we vowed till death do we part! We were in for the long haul no matter what. I think sometimes they've made divorce to easy. I also think it's wrong to blame her husband. It is 50/50. He did go to counseling. He was trying and we don't know all the details. Best of luck to the both of them and baby Luca!

nonmember avatar cruz

Alot of moms on here talk about how it's hard to work through marriage and I don't disagree I've been married to my husband for 3 years but we also waited. So many people get married so fast I was dating my husband for 2 years, was his fiance for another 2 years and as I stated above we've been married for 3! All 7 of those years have been work, the ups and the downs, the good with the bad. I truely believe people want to rush to the alter, if you take the time to get to slow it down it makes it alot easier (I think anyways) Not saying the 7 years have been a breeze, we've almost split up on one occasion but waiting it out and taking our time has definently kept me a married woman where as all my friends are divorcing at my age (25). I'm not saying its because they rushed it either sometimes people just click! I think its those who are willing to see that its more than the great sex and just for the fun, you have to take the bad with the good just like everything else in life!

nonmember avatar Brian Smith

There is absolutely nothing wrong with Kim's 72-day marriage. It was the smarter thing to do than to drag it out and waste her life with someone that doesn't love her for 3-4 years later, then wind up with a child and file for divorce. This hurts the child's future. Kris Humphries clearly showed Kim he didn't love or care much for her, news reported him going to clubs in another country, talking smack about her family behind her back, calling her fat, not siding with her. She didn't feel safe with him, and that's big flag. She didn't feel comfortable coming home to him. And if a guy is willing to start his marriage with such cruelty, it gets worse not better.

nonmember avatar Deb

To WAG....Divorce is NEVER 50/ party falls out of love for a reason. Not always because of what the other one is doing or not doing. My first marriage after 14 years, ended because I could longer live with an alcoholic. 7 years of promise after promise, rehab and counseling to only find out after the divorce that hubby was bisexual. Now happily married for 23 years to another man 11 years younger then myself. Honesty with yourself is the key. You can't fix a spouse you can only fix yourself. Never live with a man before you get married. Know how to live with yourself before bringing someone else into your space! Don't get married because you don't want to be alone!

nonmember avatar Dzg

So hillary is single again? Anybody got her number?

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