Jessica Simpson's been making the rounds showing off her post-baby weight loss, and if you know anything about the celeb mama, you know she tells it like it is. And hearing about what life really is like for her these days, it's clear things have come together in a beautiful way for the singer-turned-fashion guru. She even opened up to Redbook recently about her amazing relationship with fiance Eric Johnson.
While the two have yet to tie the knot, she discussed what she thinks has kept (and will continue to keep!) their relationship healthy. (Side note: I can't help but wonder if she also was alluding to what made her marriage to Nick Lachey un-healthy ...?!)
I’ve learned that sometimes love is not enough. You can have a soul mate and be madly in love with that person, but it's not necessarily enough. I think you have to have personalities that mesh well. You have to be the yin to their yang. You also have to be open to figuring things out together and communicating even when it's the last thing you want to do. I have to admit, it doesn’t hurt that Eric is one of the hottest men I've ever seen and he looks amazing naked!
Haha, yup! Sounds about right! Couldn't agree with Jess more.
Rom coms and women's magazines would have us believe -- from a very young, impressionable age even -- these myths that love conquers all. If it's true love, that is. As long as you're really "meant to be," your relationship will be built to last. And bumps won't even come up! But I feel like that is completely naive -- not to mention such a trap.
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It leaves many of us feeling like failures when things do (inevitably) head in a difficult direction. But having to work at your relationship does not automatically mean it is not right. On the contrary, "figuring things out" and making an effort even/especially when times are tough are both things two people trying to go about building a life together inevitably need to do. And it's something you WILL continue to do if you care enough.
Plus, as Jess points out, personality compatibility helps ... Not to mention being very physically attracted to your partner! Ha!
What do you think about Jessica's insight on long-term love? Do you believe healthy relationships take work?
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