‘Full House’ Star Candace Cameron Plays Submissive Wife to Stay Married (VIDEO)

Okay, everyone, just calm down. That advice comes straight from former Full House star Candace Cameron Bure, who knows darn well a lot of us are going to freak when we hear just what it is that she claims has made her 17-year marriage to NHL player Valeri Bure work for them. You'll have to disregard everything your bra-burning moms and grannies taught you because Candace's secret involves taking on a submissive role in her relationship and letting Val make all final decisions -- even at the "detriment" of her family (her words, not mine). 

But before you judge D.J. Tanner too harshly -- the actress, author, and mother of three makes some really solid points.

As a Christian, Candace uses the word "submissive" the way she says it is interpreted in the Bible. In other words, she believes in being meek and practicing "strength under control," but lets her husband lead their family because, as a natural-born "leader," that's the position that makes him feel most comfortable. She says she isn't a passive person, voices her opinion often, and is able to sway her husband to do what she thinks is best simply because he values her opinion.

But look guys, at the end of the day, if Val feels strongly about something, whether Candace thinks it's right or wrong, her hubby is going to win that battle. Candace does not hide this fact and seems to be totally fine with it. 

Whatever your opinion, the roles Candace and Val have selected for themselves within their marriage work for them. I think we take for granted how important it is in a relationship to "give in" at times, even if we feel we are 100 percent right. I'm not referring to those instances when we're debating "big issues," like whether to have your child vaccinated or baptized. Then, by all means, you must stick to your guns until you can reach a compromise or you'll feel like your partnership isn't equal and you aren't being heard or respected.

But if you're going to dig your heels in the ground every time your husband insists on fixing the toilet instead of calling a plumber -- well, good luck with that.

Personally, I couldn't follow my husband's lead as much as Cam feels comfortable doing in her marriage. I think my husband and I both like how I take control of our finances and keep on top of our paperwork and I know I love how he's willing to take charge when it comes to dealing with home repairs and making important phone calls. Our relationship works best for us when we lead at times and follow at other times. 

But no one but Cameron and Val can say if this arrangement works for them. And I have to admit I admire her ability to put her ego aside for the sake of raising a happy and strong family. 

Here's what she had to say in her interview with Huff Post Live:

What do you think of Candace Cameron Bure's opinion that being a "submissive" wife has helped her maintain a strong marriage? 

 

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lulou lulou

she "allows" him to make the final choice.  hmmmmmm

Krystian Kaufold

I'm the submissive type, and my husband will tell you. 


But we make final decisions on our own. He doesn't get the final say at all.

nonmember avatar blue

I really don't care. If that works for them and they are happy, whatever. It's their marriage.

funmo... funmommy123

She really has the control. She ALLOWS him to, okay...lol. if it works for them, then more powerto them. I'm not a "submissive" wife, but I do kind of understand her eexplanation in the video.

Momma... MommaCady

Yes lu she allows him to have to final say. Its a role you choose as a Christian wife. You have to agree as a couple that he will lead. I feel sorry for you wives that can't have trust that their husbands will be good family heads and leaders. Maybe you all married the wrong men.

funmo... funmommy123

She really has the control. She ALLOWS him to, okay...lol. if it works for them, then more powerto them. I'm not a "submissive" wife, but I do kind of understand her eexplanation in the video.

funmo... funmommy123

MommaCady- My husband is the head of household & I guess u can say the "leader," but if something isn't right, I will voice my opinion & not just say "okay, u can decide on it even though I don't agree with you." We will talk about it & meet in the middle. Meeting I the middle works for us.

nonmember avatar mel

"It's a role you choose as a Christian wife." Wow I almost wish I had a penis so I could find a "Christian wife" like you. You sound like an 18th century idiot @mommacady. When men did just lead we were treated like second class slaves. Only when women started to flex their power did we start to get the respect and positions we deserve. It's people like you that had us stuck as second class citizens without the right to vote.

NoWei NoWei

And a lot of marriages have succeeded without allowing your husband to abuse & dominate you this way. A recipe for success for her should not be confused with a healthy relationship. 

lulou lulou

I also like the writers use of the word "plays".

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