Drew BarrymoreDrew Barrymore is one incredibly resilient woman. Not only has the actress survived alcoholism and drug addiction that started when she was around the tender age of 10, she has also survived a bumpy childhood. She was legally emancipated at 15, and there were numerous Hollywood pitfalls that she fell in since she became a superstar at the age of 6. She has done all this while maintaining her career.

Now, at the age of 38, she is living the life she always dreamed of. She is married to Will Kopelman, has a young daughter and another on the way, and has become very close with his extended family. Through this, she tells Marie Claire, she has really discovered just how sad and deprived her own childhood was.

It's not a happy story. But it has a happy ending. Sadly, Barrymore also said that she is simply unable to have a relationship with her mother Jaid. She says:

Ugh, I mean, my relationship with my mom is so complicated. I’ve always been empathetic toward my mom, and I was even more so when I had a kid and we had a really amazing conversation about. However, it hasn’t enabled me to lessen the distance. It’s the hardest subject in my life. I’ve never just been angry with her. I’ve always felt guilt and empathy and utter sensitivity. But we can’t really be in each other’s lives at this point.

This isn't an unusual family story. From Jennifer Aniston to Demi Moore to Angelina Jolie, Hollywood is full of stories of people who have messed up relationships with family members.

Whether it's because coming from a messed up background helps to make people more successful or because so many people envy their family member's success, this is an old story in Hollywood. But even among those old stories, Barrymore's is unusual.

It says a lot about her that she is even able to forgive. As someone who also has family members I will never speak to again, I get a lot of this. But I am not sad and I don't forgive those past transgressions. I am moving on, but certain people are simply too rotten and messed up to allow into our lives.

The fact that Barrymore can speak fondly of her mother speaks volumes about her. After reading Little Girl Lost, she would have had every reason to never speak to her mother again.

It makes me love her all the more. There is an amazing healing that comes with becoming a mother and finding a husband who loves you for who you are and with whom you create a smooth, stable, happy family. Sometimes it does open up painful truths about our past. But the beautiful thing about being a grownup is being able to let that hurt go and let the toxic people go, too. It's sad. But it's not that sad.

Do you have any toxic people you can't be around who happen to be family members?


Image via Splash