Drew Barrymore Tells the Painful Truth About Her Mom

Drew BarrymoreDrew Barrymore is one incredibly resilient woman. Not only has the actress survived alcoholism and drug addiction that started when she was around the tender age of 10, she has also survived a bumpy childhood. She was legally emancipated at 15, and there were numerous Hollywood pitfalls that she fell in since she became a superstar at the age of 6. She has done all this while maintaining her career.

Now, at the age of 38, she is living the life she always dreamed of. She is married to Will Kopelman, has a young daughter and another on the way, and has become very close with his extended family. Through this, she tells Marie Claire, she has really discovered just how sad and deprived her own childhood was.

It's not a happy story. But it has a happy ending. Sadly, Barrymore also said that she is simply unable to have a relationship with her mother Jaid. She says:

Ugh, I mean, my relationship with my mom is so complicated. I’ve always been empathetic toward my mom, and I was even more so when I had a kid and we had a really amazing conversation about. However, it hasn’t enabled me to lessen the distance. It’s the hardest subject in my life. I’ve never just been angry with her. I’ve always felt guilt and empathy and utter sensitivity. But we can’t really be in each other’s lives at this point.

This isn't an unusual family story. From Jennifer Aniston to Demi Moore to Angelina Jolie, Hollywood is full of stories of people who have messed up relationships with family members.

Whether it's because coming from a messed up background helps to make people more successful or because so many people envy their family member's success, this is an old story in Hollywood. But even among those old stories, Barrymore's is unusual.

It says a lot about her that she is even able to forgive. As someone who also has family members I will never speak to again, I get a lot of this. But I am not sad and I don't forgive those past transgressions. I am moving on, but certain people are simply too rotten and messed up to allow into our lives.

The fact that Barrymore can speak fondly of her mother speaks volumes about her. After reading Little Girl Lost, she would have had every reason to never speak to her mother again.

It makes me love her all the more. There is an amazing healing that comes with becoming a mother and finding a husband who loves you for who you are and with whom you create a smooth, stable, happy family. Sometimes it does open up painful truths about our past. But the beautiful thing about being a grownup is being able to let that hurt go and let the toxic people go, too. It's sad. But it's not that sad.

Do you have any toxic people you can't be around who happen to be family members?

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nonmember avatar terry

am I the only one who remembers that there
is much doubt that Drew is entitled to the
name Barrymore. Jada was pregnant when she
married John and he questioned his paternity

nonmember avatar JC

Honestly, I think it is just that so many people have screwed up relationships with their parents (for whatever reason), that there is bound to be many successful people in that group. It's not really a problem that discriminates.

the4m... the4mutts

Terry, legally if the husband does not formally contest paternity in x-amount of time after a child's birth, then she is a child of the marriage and entitled to the name. Even if the child is black, and both married people are white. A child born in wedlock is a child of that marriage unless a court deems otherwise.

And to sit here and say someone is or isnt "entitled" to a friggin NAME is just stupid. I could go change my name to Obama tomorrow if I wanted. Its a name. Get over it.

nonmember avatar Jen

@ Terry, if you've ever seen Lionel Barrymore in It's a Wonderful Life, the family resemblance is incredible. There is no doubt Drew is a Barrymore.

Looki... Looking4Truth

I can't and won't ever again be around my birth mother.  After meeting her in my early 20's and developing a wonderful relationship with her, she kicked me out of her life again when I was in my 40's.  She said she hated me.  Wonderful.  Never again.

arkan... arkansas_mommy3

My husbands parents, and brothers are not allowed to be around us. All started thirteen years ago. My husband and myself lived behind his parents and in front of his brothers and they would wait til we leave overnight and break into our house and call DCFS on us. So when we got home they seen the house and took my then 2 year old son and 4 year son away 8 weeks of being able to see the oldest two hours a week and not seeing the youngest. (Too far they would say). Then happened again eight years ago when i went into the hospital to have c-section surgery to have my daughter. As soon as we got home their was DCFS ready to take them again. Not to mention DCFS was also at my hospital while in surgery. (My Mom ran them off from there) but at four days old they take my daughter and sons. From May to june to return my sons not til october to return my daughter. As soon as we founs out what was going on. We packed everything and moved. Havent been back not even to visit. Living there was beyond toxic. But everything is wonderful now. My kids are soon to be 17, 15, and 8.

Hunny... HunnybearSG

Thank you Jen! I was going to say the same thing. Terry, Google the Barrymore family and look at the pictures, she is DEFINITELY a Barrymore by blood.

MrsMa... MrsMamaWhite

I can't be around my birth mother. She is an alcoholic and drug abuser. I have given her multiple chances but I can not hold a relationship with her solely for the sake of my daughter's safety.

laran... laranadtony

What? Drew Barrymore is more of a barrymore is all barrymore! 

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