Brandi Glanville’s Lame Apology for Her Racist Comment Just Makes Things Worse

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brandi glanvilleOh Brandi. Did you catch what the Housewife of Beverly Hills said in this week's episode? It was kind of racist, and she kind of apologized. I know, you're shocked, but let's talk about it anyway. When Joyce Giraud de Ohoven admitted she couldn't swim, Brandi Glanville quipped, "You're black." Facepalm! Apparently no black person has ever learned to swim -- did you know? Fun fact! Also, it's not a fact, it's a ridiculous generalization.

So there was an awkward pause, and then Brandi started babbling: "It was a joke and my black friends would've laughed crazy, 'cause they don't go in the pool because they will get their weave f*cked up ... All my black friends can't swim. Is that bad?" Oh mah gah, what does that wacky word sandwich even mean?!? No wait, before we talk about why I'm shaking my damn head, let's give Brandi one more chance to shove that foot into her gaping maw just a little further.

Brandi called into Andy Cohen's Watch What Happens Live! show to dig herself a bigger hole explain herself.

I know what I said was definitely inappropriate, but I say a lot of inappropriate things. I'm not racist, I'm just inappropriate 90 percent of the time! It definitely was not sensitive and I apologize to anyone I offended. But to be honest with you, my friends and I joke with each other this way and they're from all different backgrounds. So I'm sorry and I guess TV's not ready for the real Brandi, but should I censor myself? Is that gonna be exciting?

I think it was definitely inappropriate. I'm the least racist person of all time. I think the more you defend it, the more you look guilty, so I don't really have to say that much more. I am very sorry with whomever I defended. Defended. Offended!

So thanks to Brandi, we now have a new racism loophole: Just call it "inappropriate" and then you're well-intentioned but rude instead of outright bigoted. Right. Here's the thing.

1. Racist statements don't have to come from a place of hate. They can come from a place of ignorance or insensitivity. Making a sweeping generalization about an entire group of people, especially when it's inaccurate, even if it's a compliment, is a form of racism. (Those Asians are all so good at math! See what I mean? Ughh, don't ever say that, please.)

2. Having black friends doesn't give you license to say racist things. Having black friends who laugh at your backwards declarations doesn't make you not racist.

3. Yes, actually, if you're on TV, maybe you should kind of watch what you're saying. You call it censorship -- I call it sensitivity and discretion, two rare conversational gems in increasingly short supply these days.

Brandi Glanville is funny, and we love her for saying outrageous things. But sometimes she goes too far, like she did here. I think she knows that, and that's why she apologized. But she can't just chalk it up to being "inappropriate." I kind of wish she just left it to a simple apology and moved on. We don't need to hear her kvetching about censoring herself, for crying out loud.

Anyway, since then Brandi has given a longer apology via blog post.

Do you agree that Brandi's statement was racist?


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nonmember avatar kim

ok what about dumb blonde?

Thats... ThatsSoRachael

it's funny cuz I'm black and I can't swim. What she said has some truth to it. A lot of my friends won't get their hair wet, but they don't wear weave lol

nonmember avatar Teresa

The problem I have is not with the comments about the weave or the fact that AA can't swim, the problem that I have is with the fact that she used it as a slam to Joyce whom she had been antagonizing all day, it came from an ugly place and that is what made it an ugly remark.
Carlton, Yolanda and Lisa laughing as it is was a funny joke put them at the same level of trashiness as Brandi.

nonmember avatar Ashley

@ThatsSoRachael, stop being silly. I'm black, and I CAN swim. Your comment is just adding to untrue stereotypes.

Theolia Ranson



AliPa... AliParker

People are being too sensitive. I don't watch this show and don't really know who this girl is but I have to agree with her. Some people live under rocks and only talk about weather and rainbows but for the most part people joke about race a lot. I'm white, my husband is Mexican, my best friend is black. Just imagine the racial jokes around my parts. Obviously none of us are racist and if we are that sucks for our interracial kids! I don't know her relationship with the person she said it to but if they have that kind of friendship she doesn't need to apologize. If however she said that to someone that doesn't have that kind of humor she should apologize to that person, not the world. When my husband, my friend, and I joke like that it's not around others because some will take it where the sun doesn't shine and we are not looking to offend. But hopefully she felt comfortable joking to this girl because they're a couple or they're friends and she knew it would be in good humor. 

Thats... ThatsSoRachael

@Ashley, good for you. I was speaking about my OWN personal experience. And in MY life, most of my Black family and friends either can't swim or don't cuz they don't want to get their hair wet. I know if I just spent 3 hrs washing and straightening my hair I'm definitely not jumping in the pool.

Darlene McCrary

I've been told by black women that they don't swim because of their hair. It makes sense to me because it's not only a weave but the fact that their hair requires a lot of care. I believe I remember Oprah saying on her show that she doesn't know how to swim and actually said that many black women don't swim for that reason. I don't consider asking a person if they are black racist unless it's clear the person asking is racist. If you're not racist, what is the problem? I think it's racist to automatically assume the question is insulting.

Andrew Martin

I feel sorry for Brandi on this one thing.

Black people make these jokes all the time and it sinks into of psyche and how we express our selves as a result. When famous black women who are loved by all make these jokes ALL types of people forget who they are & what jokes are theirs to make.

On some level it's not her fault.

Jojo Gosha

To little to late she is disgusting person!!

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