'Real Housewives of Atlanta' Recap: Kandi Burruss Is a Total Doormat!

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real housewives of atlanta This week's episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta was not dissimilar to the plot of Henri Balzac's novel, La Cousine Bette. That's right, I've decided that Joyce is no better than the villain of that great work. Maybe that's giving her brand of 'evil' ways a bit more credit than they are due. Bette's evil comes from a source as true and incomprehensible as Shakespeare's Iago. Whereas, because this is reality T.V., Joyce's singular reason for being so cruel is almost too easy to glean. 

I have been speaking ill of Kandi Burruss' mama Joyce a lot lately. I stand by all of it. She is a controlling, manipulative presence in her daughter's life. She's as mean as a viper and just as cunning. She won't rest until she's made sure that she is the only ally her daughter has left. She is greedy and cruel, cruel, cruel. But you know what? This situation could be solved. 

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All it would take to ensure smoother sailing is for Kandi to realize that standing up to her mother doesn't have to mean speaking disrespectfully to her. She's stagnating in her relationship with her parent. Kandi is a successful adult, who hasn't been 'allowed' to have any functioning relationships outside the familial sphere. And that's happened because she totally engages her mother's inability to let her daughter have any degree of emotional space. That's right y'all. I'm playing arm-chair analyst and saying that Kandi has a raging case of codependency. It's just as bad as crotch rash and there is no easy-to-apply ointment that will heal what ails her.  

Sometimes it's hard to explain to people why I watch reality T.V. Every attempt sounds like a defense of a bad habit. Especially when I'm watching some woman fight back tears in a wedding dress while her mother tries to hurl her (ugly) shoes at a woman she perceives (insanely) to be a rival. But these are the moments worth watching -- and not simply for the schadenfreude (you monsters). People are so often a mystery, their motivations complex, layered, and frustrating. On reality T.V. they are very often distilled down to their basic psychology -- and there's something satisfying about the ability to see and easily digest the complexities of man. 

Also, Phaedra Parks used to be called "Doctor Head" in high school. Presumably because she did magical things with the penises of her callers. 

Do you think Kandi has it in her to ever stand up to her mother?


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littl... littlesuzyfrog

Maybe she should go pheadra's route, and kill her with silience!  And maybe not invite her to the next round of dress shopping on purpose.  That might nip it in the butt.

nonmember avatar ksizemore

I understand respecting your mother, but when she is treating the man you love and want to marry like a dog...You pay the woman's bills, gave her your house...YOU stand up for your man...I don't care if she is your mother...she is a HOOD RAT acting grandma...that i'd be very ashamed for my daughter to be around..and those other 2 women who stood up and lied at the dress event...Carman did not jump up in your mothers face..those 3 women were acting like a thug gang...you are a complete doormat for letting anyone walk over you and especially the man you love like they are....GROW UP! If Todd doesn't leave you for all of this, you'll be lucky!

nonmember avatar Vesta

No, she is gutless and not so bright. Serious enabling her behavior.

nonmember avatar Neece

I feel so sorry for Kandi. I think she is going to lose her man Todd due to her mother's manipulative & controlling ways. If I was Todd, I would leave her. She doesn't have a backbone when it comes to her mom. She will he alone forever and she deserves better. She is a smart business woman and they are signing a prenup as well. Kandi, be the woman I know you are and stop allowing your mother to run your life. You are going to wind up just like momma Joyce........ ALONE!

nonmember avatar Silo

Joyce is scared someone else is going to take her gravy train away. Kandi supports her and pays her bills and she is mean when she feels the money may stop. Joyce need to be put in a home for the old and ugly

nonmember avatar LS

Kandi, Kandi Kandi

Sweetheart your trying to be such a good daughter by not telling your mom to stop. But the toll on you is too much. God forbid if your mom would be right, but even so she should be treating you like a grown woman, with

respect, like the beautiful woman you are.

Even tho you are used to putting up with her Rude, cruel, insensitive, selfish, classless, etc... comments can't be a good example of a mother daughter relationship for your own daughter. After all these years it will be hard to get your mom to test you differently but my advice is to make some boundaries and be strong and direct. and font let mom take you out of your own normal calmness with her, she might need a break from you to really get it. Good luck.

nonmember avatar margie

Everything you wrote is right on the mark, Kandi is a fool letting her Mom behave like the controlling, ignorant person she is, which completely disrespects the people in her life that truly care about her. I think she SHOULD cancel the wedding and marry her Mom. Obviously she's not ready to be with anyone else. Her Mom is capital E -embarrassing!

Bea Fashionhouse

Her relationship with Tod won't last.

nonmember avatar KB

I like Kandi and want the best for her but she will lose Todd and any other man because her mother is too intrusive. Kandi's mother will not stop her inappropriate behavior because Kandi permits and tolerates it. It may be best if Kandi chooses to love her mother afar. Her interference is unacceptable. Even if the claims made by Kandi's mom are true, she still has to allow her adult daughter to make her own mistakes and learn from them. I understand any parent who is concerned for her child's well-being but believe me any indiscretions that are in the dark will soon come to the light.

nonmember avatar Mary

Why did you repeat the hideous comments Nene made about Phaedra? Although, the damage has already been done on national tv and thanks to people like you who repeat lies, Nene has backed away and apologized for her words. Please, check your facts first. Come on, women, don't do this to each other. Set a better example for your daughters.

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