Bethenny Frankel Says Her Divorce Isn't What It Seems

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bethenny frankelFormer Real Housewives of New York star-turned-talk show host Bethenny Frankel has had her life put under a microscope for years, but it wasn't until her divorce from Jason Hoppy that things got rather intense. Paparazzi has trailed the now-single mom, often while with her 3-year-old Bryn, all over Manhattan, and varied reports offer new and not always true details about the split. Given how Bethenny has described her ongoing divorce as "a brutal, brutal time," we can only imagine how rough it must be to contend with that in the public eye.

While catching up with us during an intimate sit-down Q&A yesterday, the straight-talking entrepreneur spoke candidly about her divorce being documented so closely by the media -- and what's next for her when it comes to love ...

When asked about the difficulty of divorcing in public, Bethenny admitted:

Divorces are like ice cream. There are a lot of different flavors ... some can be amicable, and some can be very peaceful and easy, and some can be really brutal. And I honestly did not have any idea how difficult, to say the least, it could be. Doing it in the public is very frustrating in ways, because people don't know the whole story. I'm pretty straightforward, [but] people probably know about 10 percent of the story. And I can't share the story, and it's intense, so that can be a little frustrating, cuz I'm the one who's out there, and I'm the one who can be polarizing. But not everything is what it seems.  

Ugh. I so feel for her ... Divorce is hard enough in general without people always guessing and believing they actually know what happened and what's going on behind closed doors. Bethenny has built an EMPIRE on being unapologetically herself, and yet, she can't share the details about this extremely challenging, difficult, painful part of her life. If that isn't a case for people to hold their judgment, I don't know what is.

In the meantime, though, she made it clear she's not considering dating right now. When asked about what she'd look for in a man in the future, Bethenny replied:

It's just like having food poisioning and not wanting to eat again. I mean, it's like saying, "Let's go to a restauarant!" I don't know. It's one of the things you think you should be doing, like a sport. "I should be working out" ... "I should be dating, I should be entertaining that!" So, in theory, it sounds somewhat appetizing, but in reality, it doesn't seem to be all that interesting to me right now.

Good for her. All too often we feel like we should be doing something when we're just not emotionally ready for it. And everyone deserves all the time they need to heal before putting their toe back in the stressful waters of dating! 

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I'm sure that when/if the time is right, Bethenny will take it on just like she does everything else: By unapologetically putting who she really is out there. And really, there's no better way to move on and up.

Do you agree Bethenny should be in no rush to start dating again? Do you feel for her going through the divorce so publicly?

 

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nonmember avatar mary

Julies sudden departure spoke volumes, it spoke to how bad her bosses life became.

But I still think Bethany is hard on the people in her life, as she ius on herself...

nonmember avatar Lisa

I do understand what Bethenny is going through, I was also married to a guy who with family and friends was wonderful yet behind doors was nasty and verbally abusive. When we divorced friends turned on me because he was that super cool guy who was the life of the party, I learned back then who my real friends were, the ones who knew me better and knew that he had a dark side inside of him. I figure in her case is even more difficult because it is all played on the media who has made a point to make Jason almost like an angelical character while painted Bethenny as the evil witch, but as usual there is two sides of every story and then there is the truth

Judith Grant Lombardo

She has changed so much and I don't think for the better, She is unhealthy looking, way too skinny, I think the stress is getting to her, she has lost alot of her popularity which proves all the money in the world cannot buy you true happiness, she will have her money but never a healthy relationship I think she is too hard on the people around her. She will pay the price in the long run, I have lost alot of respect for her.


 

Lucille Tiscia Girlando

What was the point of this "interview" if the truth can't be told!

Susan Livingston Harris

oh haha some good press for the sinking diva.   very obvious but enjoy.

ohnos... ohnoshedidnt443

So many are so quick to judge. Not a single one of you (other that herself & Jason), has walked their shoes, yes it has been telivised but only tiny bits and pieces. So no one has the right to judge or point fingers because only they know the whole truth. God Bless them both and little Bryn, I pray that in the end of it all they become stronget and better people.

Leah Kirkreit

Please stop running (AND RERUNNING!!!) misleading teasers to get people to click on a story! I find this completely annoying, as your stories, almost always lack anything news worthy, let alone "shocking". To be fair at least this non-story was about an actual, albeit former, Housewife.

nonmember avatar Donna Dillon

BETHENNY , everyone Saw How Badly You Treated JASON As Well As His POOR PARENTS !!!!!! JASON'S Parents Had Already Lost One SON , And You Did Everything You Could Possible Do , To KEEP THEM AWAY FROM THEIR ONLY OTHER SON AND THEIR GRANDAUGHTER And For That BETHENNY YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF !!!!!! I Only Hope Now That JASON'S PARENT Get To See HIM And BRYNN A lot More Now That He's NOT With YOU !!!!!!!!! He Was WAY To GOOD To Get Hooked Up With Someone Like YOU In The First Place !!!!! YOU ALWAYS PUT YOURSELF IN FRONT OF EVERYONE ELSE AS FAR AS I CAN SEE , AND I HONESTLY THINK YOU USED JASON. JUST SO YOU COULD HAVE A CHILD , ALL YOU EVER WANTED WAS MONEY BETHENNY WELL LETS SEE HOW WARM THE MONEY KEEPS YOU AT NIGHT. !!!!!!!!!

Connie Gollhardt

I think Bethanny need to take a break from men .... her and I both have been thru a hard time her with this drvorce me with a long relationship and now she has a little girl to raise and she wants to put her energy in raising Bryn and her company and her TV show... Men are in another catagory the same for me... Its also cold here I dont like going out in the cold weather so I act like a bear and dont go out too much in the winter time.Bethanny will know when she is ready to jump in the dateing pool again . I wish her all the luck in the world she is my favorite person. I have watched her cence Martha Stewart. So it goes way back, and I so wish I could get to NYC to see her at a taping of her show.

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