Even before Kim Kardashian went public with her relationship with Kanye West, there's been evidence that he might be a bit controlling. Remember the ep of Keeping Up With the Kardashians on which he made her overhaul her entire wardrobe? Uh, yep ... Well, now that they're engaged, Life & Style is reporting that Kim's friends are hesitant about her marrying Kanye.
These supposed friends are worried Kim's been acting like a "robot" since Kanye put a ring on it, pointing to her appearance on Jay Leno and noting, "It was as if she’d been brainwashed about what to say. She didn’t have a sparkle in her eye that she once had.”
She also seems less spark-y since her pre-Kanye days. But if that isn't enough to convince you of trouble in paradise, there's more ...
Apparently, “Kanye's calling the shots about the wedding, the house they’re constructing, everything down to what shoes she’s gonna wear to events. Kim doesn’t think she’s being controlled. She’s ‘deciding’ to do whatever Kanye wants. She’s so in the Kanye bubble right now.”
I worry that there is some truth to this, because Kim has been taking a backseat in a lot of ways it seems. Every time she's discussed her wedding, she defaults to "whatever Kanye wants." There's a fine line between being so in love that you're incredibly laidback/totally open to whatever your partner wants, but ultimately, you reach a decision jointly, and being so under someone's thumb that you're doing whatever they want.
Healthy relationships are built on loving someone for who they truly are, not who you want to mold them into. I'm also of the belief that the best relationships are egalitarian -- not one person in the driver's seat and another person way in the back, just along for the ride, no questions asked. The only way I could think to describe a relationship where one partner is calling all the shots -- to the extent that they're dampening the other's desires, interests, free will! -- is manipulative. Maybe toxic. And if that's what's going on here, I would HOPE Kim's friends would be disillusioned (at least!), if not freaking out about her decision to marry Kanye!
Then again, perhaps Kim likes being in the backseat for once -- or she always has, considering how her momager Kris Jenner sort of ran the show up until now. But still, if there's even a smidge of truth to the idea that Kanye's quashed her spirit for his own self-interest, she needs to RUN.
Do you think Kim may be in a toxic relationship?
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