Rock Stars' Kooky Marriage Rule Might Be the Key to Making It Last

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Avril LavigneWhen it comes to making a marriage work, you know that old saying: The couple that doesn't drink when they're not together stays together. Wait, is that a saying? Not sure, but singer Avril Lavigne and her husband, Nickelback frontman Chad Kroeger, have made it theirs. The couple say they plan to keep their marriage together because they've got some pretty strict rules. 1) No nightclubs. 2) No drinking when they're apart. Considering they are both rock stars, that's probably not such a bad idea. But you gotta wonder ... does this mean they don't really trust each other?

Kroeger told People magazine:

We don't drink when we're apart. Ever. Even if we're apart for weeks.

And Avril added: "We want to protect what we have."

As for nightclubs, Kroeger explains: "We don't want to go anywhere that you're asking for trouble. I don’t want to be in Europe texting her, like 'Where are you?' This way we don't have to worry about any of that stuff."

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Considering how many celebrity marriages have crashed on the shoals of partying, booze, nightclubs, and cheating, this sounds like a pretty good idea to me. I do wonder about the drinking rule though. I get not getting smashed when your spouse isn't around, but what about a glass of wine with dinner? A beer with your pals?

I suppose that could be a slippery slope though. One wine cooler with your best friend could so easily turn into a two-day Krokodil-fueled rager. (Right?)

Although it's ideal if the trust in a relationship is so sound that each party can do whatever they want with no issues, most couples aren't like that. There's usually some pocket of insecurity that needs to be worked through. Whether it's never contacting an ex; not being on Facebook; sharing passwords, etc. These are things that, over time, should build up trust to the point where they're not needed anymore.

Given that Avril and Chad know what it's like to be on the road, understand the temptations, and have probably already done the tempestuous relationships that crashed and burned over jealousy issues and partying -- these rules may sound overly harsh, but they're pretty mature too. I'm thinking these two stand a chance!

Do you have any rules about drinking when you're not around your spouse?

 

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rkkel... rkkeller13

Me and my hubby have something like this that we agreed upon. We don't go to bars or similar establishment's without the other. It saves on the hassle of "what happened". Its really worked out well for us since we have been together for 13yrs.

Morri... MorriganzMommy

We don't have those kind of rules but what we do have is respect. If there is ever a reason, even for that moment, that either feel uncomfortable even without a reason, the other will not go out. We have all the same friends really. But sometimes DH wants guy time and I want girl time and so we will go out separately. I have a few guy friends that I go out with as well, to a bar, and DH has no issue. We don't leave town and they are the few that DH knows will protect me as well as he would. I can see if they are on tour and spending a lot of time apart that rules are needed. In a career where a person with a camera can turn nothing into something I see why these two would have such strict rules to prevent fights.

snowb... snowball01201

Um hasn't she been married before and divorced? I'm not sure I'd take mariage advice from her LOL

twyli... twyliatepeka

I don't think she should be passing out advice since this is #2 for her.

Kyley Braden Thomas

Maybe she realizes the mistakes she made in her first marriage and doesn't want to repeat them.

Penel... PenelopesMom

If those rules work for them, more power to 'em. We don't have any "rules", so to speak, but there are definitely mutually understood lines of respect. If I'm going to have a glass of wine with my BFF after work, he's the first to get a phone call so he knows where I am and how long I'll be there. Stuff like that. 

Raven Arlowe

They've been married for how long?

OneTo... OneToughMami

We don't need to make them official rules...

Mae Clark

I think this is great for them. They both know what the party scene is all about and how it can ruin a relationship. It's not about not trusting the other anytime you are partying your thinking is going to be impaired this way they don't have to worry about any of that. Good for them especially since I am sure they both spend a lot of time apart they won't have to worry what the other might be doing.

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