I used to really dislike Gwyneth Paltrow (here are 10 of the various reasons why), then somewhere along the line, I decided she mostly has a brain-mouth-media filter problem and she's probably not as annoying as she comes across when you isolate the things she says in interviews. Probably.
However, now that I've seen what she recently shared with the British magazine Red, I think her real problem is insecurity. When I look at her various declarations of personal empowerment in this article and her supposed "who gives a shit?" attitude towards her critics, what I really see is a woman who gives a very, very big shit indeed. A pointy shit. An organic, perfumed shit, sure, but a bothersome, distracting shit all the same.
In fact, what I think the best thing Paltrow could possibly do for herself and her brand would be to take some of her own advice to heart.
Paltrow breaks plenty of potty language in this latest interview to illustrate her points, which can basically be boiled down to "I don't care what other people think about me." Here are some snippets:
The older I get, I realize it doesn't matter what people who don't know you think. It doesn't matter. You're wasting your energy. It's like, if your partner comes to you -- or your best friend -- and says, 'Listen, I want to talk about something you did that hurt me, or I think you could improve,' sit down and listen to what they have to say. But some friend of so-and–sos -- it's like, who gives a shit?
Nobody else can tell [a woman] how many hours a week she needs to devote to this, that or the other ... Fuck what anybody else says ... It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. That's what we've got to let go of. That idea of 'Oh god, if I don't show up to this concert, all the other mums are going to think I'm terrible.' Well, so fucking what.
I've made (my work/life balance) work for me, but it doesn't matter what my specific thing is ... It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. It matters what you think of yourself. And what your children think ... So if anyone is going to ask my advice, I'd say, do what is right for you, and don't give a shit what anyone else thinks.
Honestly, I don't disagree with what she has to say. Following your own path, shrugging off the temptation to get sidetracked by self-consciousness or doubt ... this is all great advice. It's just I'm not sure I buy the idea that she really feels this way. AT ALL.
The thing is, if you truly aren't affected by what you think other people are saying and thinking about you, you don't repeatedly state that you don't give a shit, fuck all the haters, fuck them right in their judgmental face-holes, so what, I don't care, I don't. You know what I mean? You don't need to do that because it's not even on your radar. My feeling is that Gwyneth Paltrow struggles with the criticism bigtime, because under all the aspirational lifestyle crap and cringeworthy quotes about fishmongers there's a person who's not entirely sure of herself.
In other words, Gwyneth Paltrow totally wants to be this:
But she kiiiiiiinda comes across like this:
What's your take on this interview? Do you buy what she's selling?
Image via Red