Rupert Sanders' Ex-Wife Shares How She Coped With Kristen Stewart Affair

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liberty rossLiberty Ross, whom you may remember from the love triangle square that had all of Hollywood and the world talking during summer 2012, is getting candid about how she dealt with her now ex-husband, Rupert Sanders, cheating with Kristen Stewart. In an interview with Vanity Fair, Liberty admits that the whole fiasco was "horrible. It was really the worst, really the worst. I have no words to describe what we went through." Ouch ... We could've guessed, but man, does it sound like the Rupert and KStew affair really did a number on this woman -- and her whole family.

She went on to stay that she really didn't want to give up on her marriage. "I’m not a quitter. I’ve done everything I could to be the perfect wife and mother and really support my husband. But I didn’t have any more to give, you know?" Ugh. If that doesn't have your heart breaking for her, I don't know what would ...

Thankfully, in the time that has passed since the scandalous affair, Liberty seems to have found some sort of peace with the whole big mess ... and even sounds like she may have come out of it stronger than ever.

The 35-year-old British model explains:

I was able to be completely secluded. I just visualized being this sort of Masai warrior. I was just going to stand very still and very strong, and just let it all roll past me. I tried to keep as far away from it as I could and to understand that this is my family and it’s the most precious thing to me. ... I think, for me, something always has to completely die for there to be a rebirth. And, for me, I feel like I'm going through a rebirth.

Wow, that is incredibly ... Zen! I am so impressed and in admiration of someone who can get true clarity, as it sounds she has, on a horrible ordeal like this. Especially as she went on to say something that truly reflects the peace she's found:

[Rupert and I] were together for 16 years, and that in itself is really beautiful. And we've created two exceptional lives together.

We all have our own unique ways of handling the death of a relationship, as she puts it, but obviously some ways are much healthier and therapeutic than others. Prioritizing preservation of your own mental and emotional wellness and strength -- and of course, your children's, as Liberty did -- sounds like a winning way to go in what otherwise may feel like a completely hopeless, hurtful split.

In other words, it sounds like Liberty got through this nightmare in the healthiest possible way. Good for her for letting that be known; perhaps it could serve as a great comfort to other women who happen to find themselves in the same boat.

Are you surprised by Liberty's confession? Does it change how you feel about the cheating scandal at all?


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Irene Anaya Ortega

This is old news, what about Robert his self I heard he has been a cheater as well with Kstew friend as well.... and I do not see any scandel on that part.. It seems once again when a women bites an apple its all her failt. Never the men they are angels what a bull of crock...they to bite the apple so grow up and let people live there lifes and every one cheats and their ain't perfection in the world.. get over it stop making a big deal....

worki... workingmama86

Makes me wonder how many other times he cheated on her... I would have left him too if I were her and that question would stick on my mind!

nonmember avatar Dina

I don't think Kristen was the only woman Rupert cheated with! Definitively NOT! The pictures shows clearly that they didn't have sex yet. If Liberty really wanted to save her marriage she would have- she would not get divorce!!! Her ego is too big to be able to forget and forgive. She always hated Kristen Stewart even before this. Liberty is the one who gave a lead to pops. She wanted out. She knew that Rupert constantly cheats on her and she was waited for the right moment. What better moment then being caught cheating with someone as famous as Kristen Stewart. That cheating scandal helped Liberty to became household name. Who knew about Liberty Ross before that? NOt many people!!!! So Please Liberty just shut up already. You planed it all. You selfish anorexic ass. The one person who really suffered in all this is Kristen Stewart. She paid too much for her stupid mistake. No Liberty you don't love your kids enough and you don't love Rupert for long time now you were just waiting to catch him with someone famous so that you can benefit from it. If you loved your kids and Rupert you would have forgiven him and especially if this was his first indiscretion. But you know very well that this is not the case. You know that Rupert has cheated on you numerous times. So shut up already and leave Kristen Stewart alone. She DID NOT destroy your marriage, your marriage was already crumbling down well before Kristen Stewart.

nonmember avatar Dottie Do

People- it takes two-!!! She was no saint but Kristen got all the backlash! I think he was the snake- a director with lots of power and probably used that! Why is it all her?

Barb Jarvi

heres a question for you all . was the margiage over before the affair and it was the only way out for one of them was to have  an affair? sounds like it to me.

Rachel Garber

She wasn't famous before this because they are from England, he had a career in England as a director of commercials, if I recall, and wanted to branch out and do movies, They came to the US to advance HIS career and he tuned out to be a snake. I agree, it isn't fair that it is all on the woman, I remember when Liz Taylor had an affair with Richard Burton, her co-star in Cleopatra. As far as staying with him, perhaps he did have affairs with other women, perhaps this was what tipped the scales for her. Everyone does not cheat, even in Hollywood, why should she stay with him. She gave up her career in Britain to move to US to advance HIS career and that is how he re-pays her? That reminds me of women who used to work to help put their husbands through medical or law school and then he gets successful and cheats on her with a younger prettier woman. Why shouldn't she sue for divorce. They have two children and and a life together for 14 yrs, and he blew it. She gained nothing from this, maybe monetarily from him, but she moved back to England.

Jennifer Bailey

Liberty Ross, I'm a fan.  As for everyone else, please return to grade school.  It physically hurt my eyes to try and read some of these comments.  They are full of spelling and grammar errors and it's just painful to know that this is what's become of our country.  America is growing more and more ignorant with each passing generation and it's really sad.  

Tonya Sills

is  she not even remotely  pretty 

nonmember avatar jonackleley13

I agree with dina also,,

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