Taylor Swift's Latest Crazy Relationship Advice Shows Why Hers Don’t Last

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Taylor SwiftTaylor Swift has always been brutally honest about her relationships -- at least in song. And now she's opening up in a new interview about her relationships and gives a major clue as to why they might end so "swiftly"! Taylor told Britain's Glamour magazine:

Here's what I've learned about deal-breakers. If you have enough natural chemistry with someone, you overlook every single thing that you said would break the deal.

Yikes. I don't know what Taylor's "dealbreakers" are -- but dealbreakers are those things you're not supposed to overlook no matter what. That's why they're called "dealbreakers," Taylor. Because they break the deal.

Asked if she'd take back a cheater because they had chemistry, she replied:

I've seen my friends take someone back after they've cheated because they fit perfectly. But I don't know, because I’ve never had a perfect fit with someone.

Gah, what?! Well, Taylor is only 23. Almost 24. That's still pretty young. Hopefully, one day she will realize that "chemistry" is no excuse to overlook your dealbreakers. Unless by chemistry she means that the other person is willing to do all of the hard work necessary to stop breaking your deal!

Like if your deal is "You don't cheat; I don't cheat" -- how can you say, "Well, we have perfect chemistry so I'm going to let that one slide." Your chemistry is damn sure going to change if someone betrays your trust and faith.

The older I get, the less I'm bothered about chemistry. Chemistry is nice, but it fades. A lot of things change during a relationship -- trust me, you are talking to someone whose 10-year partner changed his sexual orientation, so I know -- but chemistry should never be a reason to overlook dealbreakers like cheating, lying, being physically or emotionally abusive.

Chemistry is an odd thing. Just because you have it with someone, and have it in buckets, does not mean that person is good for you. In fact, some of the worst relationships can be overflowing with exciting chemistry.

But stay in one of these toxic relationships for awhile and watch the chemistry of your brain change to something resembling Crazy Town. Watch the chemistry of your body break down and become ill.

If someone cheats, lies, betrays, or otherwise abuses your integrity, then they are NOT "perfect."

Hopefully, Taylor will realize this one day. If she's still writing endlessly about heartbreak at 40, I think all of the mansions and gold albums in the world won't make up for it.

Do you think chemistry should override dealbreakers?


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1stRosie 1stRosie

She's not saying chemistry overrides deal breakers-- she's saying that having dealbreakers at all only makes your pool of dating opportunity smaller.  You could miss out on a true love by being hung up on something stupid.  Lots of people take back cheaters-- not because they think the chemistry is so strong and they cant help themselves.  But because the cheater is truly sorry for what they did and want to work on keeping the relationship.

Similarly, if a person says "I wont ever date a smoker" they could be missing out on a great person who just happens to smoke and wants to eventually quit.  I am getting married in 5 days to a man who was a pretty heavy smoker for many years.  When we started dating, I understood that was something he did and I didnt like it but I didnt stop dating him, nor did I force him to change.  I let him do his thing and when he wanted to quit, he did and I was as supportive as I could have been. I would have missed out on the love of a lifetime if I had been so closed-minded. 

nonmember avatar avalon

The person who wrote this really biased piece should also print everything Taylor said about relationships. She omited what Taylor said about the added pressure of a relationship with someone who is under a media microscope. You came to your conclusions by not using what else she said because it would SHOW HOW WRONG YOUR BIASED OPINION IS .Lies by omission. Sad

Krystian Kaufold

This girl can't keep a relationship because the problem is HER.


No one else, and I don't think she should be one to be giving any type of relationship advice.

nonmember avatar Dee

I agree completly with Krystian, Taylor has the mental ability of a 12 year old and should not be giving any relationship advise...JUST SAYING......

Jaghd810 Jaghd810

I don't think you are anyone who should be able to form opinions on personal relationships. You are a selfish cunt. 

Krystian Kaufold

Jaghd, I know you aren't speaking about me. 


This girl is a hot mess...and shouldn't be giving advice to anyone about relationships. 


I NEVER dated that many men when I was single. 

nonmember avatar Funny Thing

@Krystian Kaufold

Uh...she isn't giving advice? She's talking about herself and her own experiences. It's great for you if you didn't date much when you were single. But just because you didn't do something, doesn't mean if someone else does, it's wrong or they're a hot mess.

I also think it's a bit ridiculous to say the problem is HER. First of all, there are two people in each relationship and none of the men she's been involved with have found a lasting relationship, either. And second of all, so what? She's 23; many of us are no good at relationships when we're young. You learn as you grow older and there's nothing wrong with that.

KJ Dean

I think Taylor Swift speaks from experience. Just let her be. You can check out the link of a video guide on how to get your ex back. http://landyourex.com

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