Gwyneth Paltrow Thinks Cheating Shouldn't Ruin a Marriage

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gwyneth paltrow familyWe have to hand it to Gwyneth Paltrow even though it pains some of us to do so. The woman is making her marriage to Chris Martin work and she's making it look easy. We should remember that this is a couple who chose the names Apple and Moses for their kids -- if they can agree on that, they can agree on anything.

Apparently Gwyneth would also forgive her husband of 10 years if he cheated on her. And she expects he would do the same. Cheating shouldn't ruin a marriage, she thinks. And I agree with her.

Cheating, oftentimes, is a symptom of a problem. There has to be something huge going wrong for a person to cheat. So it's not necessarily the act of cheating that ends a marriage, it could be the culmination of all the other issues with the cheating being the cherry on top. Bad description, I know. Nothing sweet about it. It's all horrible -- cheating, marriages ending, love lost. Which is why when couples can make it work -- truly make it work and be truly happy -- that's an art. An art Gwyneth and Chris have seemed to master so far.

On cheating, Gwyneth said, "No couple is the same, and as such, every couple takes on different challenges. I would like to think that I would be forgiving and/or forgiven, but I can’t give an honest answer as I haven’t really experienced that." She also said that if Chris cheated on her, she'd want to know right away and not years later. I have to agree with her again there. What is this world coming to? I'm agreeing with Gwyneth!

Cheating happens sometimes because people screw up all the time. You can say that shows there isn't enough commitment in the relationship, but breaking up after cheating also shows that the couple can't stick it out through thick and thin or as we vow "in good times and in bad."

As with anything ... it always depends.

What do you think? Would you forgive (or expect forgiveness) if there was cheating going on in your marriage?

 

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nonmember avatar Jen

I'm with the 9/10 men who say they would never take back a cheating spouse.

This is one area where women are doormats.

Johni... Johnie_Sweeney

My husband told me he cheated and i left his ass. I would have worked through ANYTHING but cheating. HE was the weak one in the relationship not me for leaving.

Sjb646 Sjb646

I am not a doormat.  I stayed and worked on it and our marriage could not be stronger.  I love my husband and I know that he loves me.  We got to the root of the issue and still work on it to this day.  We both had to commit to work on our marriage together.  Jesus taught forgiveness and I believe that once you choose to forgive your partner you both move forward.  Not every story is the same nd not every couple is the same. We love each other and that is all that matters to us.  

nonmember avatar Jen

Sjb646, try making the same confession to him and see how "forgiving" your spouse is.

nonmember avatar terra

Cheating would be a deal breaker for me. He could bring home a disease. The other women or her (possible) husband could wind up to be a psycho,

D.j. Lord

somewhere michelle's husband is laughing

nonmember avatar Kate

I am with Sjb. I chose to forgive my husband for cheating on me.For me the deciding factor was his reaction to his betrayal.He was ashamed,disappointed in himself and intensely scared of telling me. He told me right away and although it was not an easy path, we made it through and are stronger than ever. He had to be an open book for me, texts, phone calls,email accounts... he made it all available to me without any resistance. No two couples are the same, and the same goes for cheating. Had my husband had an affair vs a one night stand my opinion would have been different. Like the quote" I chose to stay for all he had done right,instead of leaving for the one thing he had done wrong". My husband also knows that our path of overcoming his infidelity was a one time deal. The choice I made is not for everyone and I would never judge someone based on their personal decisions. Claiming a woman is a doormat simply for making a personal judgement call speaks to a persons maturity level.

nonmember avatar Jen

Kate, my advice for you would be the exact same. Choose to get intoxicated one night and then make the same confession "filled with shame" about your "mistake" and see how unconditional your husband's love is for you.

If you have even a shred of doubt that your husbands would be as forgiving as you have been, you shouldn't be whining about other people's perceptions of you.

nonmember avatar Kate

Kate, I have little concern as to others perceptions of me. My choices are my own, and its as simple as that. If you are referring to my comment concerning the maturity of people who call others names based on their life choices, my comment still stands. I chose to share my experience to offer an example to others that when in the situation that I found myself in, they too have a choice. Infidelity, like anything else, comes in all shapes and sizes. My husbands slip of having a one night stand surely does not equal the betrayal of his friends wives who had long standing affairs while our husbands were deployed for a year and a half. And I can attest to the fact that all three men are STILL married to their wives. Think of me as a doormat if you choose. Your opinion has no merit in my life, perhaps it would if I were a weak individual but I am not.

Nurse... Nursekelly1980

No relationship is the same, no.two people are the same. Some choose to give a long term relationship involving kids one more chance, some don't.to each their own. I'm not going to judge anyone either way for how they conduct their relationship

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