Almost every day since making their debut as a couple, former Bachelorette Desiree Hartsock and fiance Chris Siegfried seem to have been enjoying romantic dates galore. They've gone to the beach, gone hiking, checked out the full, blue moon, and even attended a Seattle Seahawks game, donning matching jerseys to honor the "12th Man."
Desiree even took to Twitter to declare, "New city. New team. @chrisrsiegfried Go hawks!" Ah jeeeze. My heart sinks a little reading that. It sounds like she's falling into a common but really unhealthy relationship trap. I really don't believe in giving up your own allegiances for your partner!
My now-husband and his brother both play on amateur hockey leagues and consider themselves loyal New Jersey Devils fans. Yes, I moved to New Jersey, but did I relinquish my identity as a Chicago Blackhawks fan? Hell no! I've just been a transplant, rooting for them from the east coast.
But I'm not just talkin' sports here, either. I'm talking any passion. Giving up anything you care strongly about for a new relationship is a no-no! It's sacrificing part of your identity. And for what? To fit in better in your new city? To bond more with your partner? Come on. Hopefully they fell for you because you are who you are. You shouldn't have to trade in your interests for theirs to prove anything!
Granted, maybe Des really couldn't have cared less about L.A. or Colorado teams, so she wasn't letting go so much as gaining something by declaring herself a Seahawks fan. Let's hope it's the case. Because if it's not, she may be losing herself in this relationship, and that's even more depressing than thinking she settled for a runner-up.
What's a passion you refused to give up for your partner?
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