Over the course of the ninth season of The Bachelorette, I was genuinely rooting for Desiree Hartsock to find true love. Maybe that's because she comes off like a sweet, intelligent, fun person I could see myself being friends with and wanting to set up with the perfect guy. But all along, it was apparent that her heart was really only invested in one of her 25 candidates -- Brooks Forester. So when he left her sitting on that dock in Antigua, crying her eyes out, I really did think she might end up walking away from the show single ...
But then came the TWIST! The swift realization (which apparently took place over the course of two weeks post-Brooks's exit) that Chris Siegfried was the one she had loved all along. Some of us bought it; others, not so much.
All I know is that if Des was really my friend, I'd want to press her for details on just how much healing she had been able to do after Brooks left ... Because no good can come out of diving head first into a serious commitment with one guy when you haven't gotten over someone else.
Des explained that everything was accelerated on the show, so what we were seeing was basically her reacting to losing Brooks, getting over that, and moving on in a much quicker time frame than if it would have progressed in the real world. And I get that, but at the same time, I have to wonder if it's truly possible to fully cope with and process a broken heart so quickly?
In the "real world," it can take months, maybe even years, to get over someone you were in love with, depending on how deep the relationship was and what your expectations were. One of the last times I was heartbroken before meeting my husband, it took me a good solid four to five months to go through all the stages of "grief" surrounding a very short-lived relationship that didn't turn out as I had hoped.
Sure, we're all different, and Desiree may be the type who can move on more quickly. And maybe she's the type who can "compartmentalize" relationships, as she said she had been doing, and fall for two guys at once. Or maybe she realized Chris really was the better match for her, and I can't disagree with that, given how she had been wanting someone more forthcoming about their emotions from the start. Still. Something still feels off about her acceptance of Chris's proposal just two weeks after being rejected by Brooks. For her sake, and Chris's, I hope Des is being honest with herself about her emotions. Because even if that honesty were to wreck the show's "fairy tale" ending, it would be the best thing for everyone involved.
How soon after heartbreak do you think is possible to move on? Do you think Desiree could genuinely fall 100 percent in love with Chris so quickly after Brooks's departure?
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