Ever since I watched the finale of Real Housewives of Orange County, all I can think about is one thing: How terrible Ryan Culberson, Vicki Gunvalson's Marine son-in-law, acted. As you may recall, and probably also can't get out of your mind if you watched it, Ryan confronted Lydia McLaughlin's mom, Judy, for having her feet up on the couch during the winter wonderland party. The cameras didn't catch the scene, but the recorders did and the voice of Ryan was so chilling, it didn't need any visual accompaniment. He sounded completely unhinged. That there was something much more going on here than a man upset over some feet on the couch (which isn't even his couch, mind you). Lydia thinks so too, as she wrote in her blog.
My poor mom. It's super hard for me to watch that scene unfold ... Although my mom is incredibly youthful and energetic she's not used to being out late and wearing high heels standing for so long. Vicki's party was a late night for her and she went inside to get warm, and put her feet up. It's not like she was Tom Cruise jumping up and down on Oprah's couch. She was literally putting her feet up. I am proud that my mom remained so calm when Ryan was yelling profanities at her.
The scary thing here was not just Ryan's behavior, which was not appropriate, but how Briana rushed to his defense, and Vicki crumbled under the force of his cray. Vicki did stick up for her guest; however, when she put her arm around Judy, Ryan snapped: "Don't hug her! Stick up for your family!"
And Vicki actually stopped hugging her!!!
Ryan also repeatedly lied about what happened, putting things into Judy's mouth that she didn't say. You would have thought Judy had threatened to kill him the way he was describing it. Notice how close he comes to raising his fist to Judy in the below scene, even though he hardly knows her? As Lydia says:
Watching his face, so full of anger, and the way he is talking about my mom is disturbing. I have to believe his reaction has more to do with something much greater than the condition of their new couch.
Some people mentioned that Ryan, a military vet who is about to embark on his sixth tour of Afghanistan, may have PTSD. If so, he should be seeking help, not grandstanding on a TV show.
Should his behavior be given a pass because he may have this condition? On the contrary, if he has this condition, he needs to be confronted and helped. The more people let it slide, the more likely the condition will get worse. HE will get worse.
Brushing it under the rug doesn't make his family forgiving, it makes them enablers. Briana did not know Ryan (who has been divorced already) very well before they got married and his true colors may be just be coming out now. Briana may find Ryan's machismo attractive -- until he turns it on her.
The way he acted during the party, I would not want him living in a house with me -- or my children or grandchildren.
Do you think Ryan should get a pass because of his military status? Did Vicki and Briana enable him?
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