Nina Dobrev Spills How She Really Feels About One-Night Stands

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nina dobrev cover of cosmoNina Dobrev hasn't exactly had the easiest year so far, at least in matters of love. (We're still wondering just how she seemingly got over her breakup with Ian Somerhalder so quickly!) Still, she has plenty to be proud and happy about. Her star seems to be rising in a big way, and she's also confident about finding Mr. Right at some point -- especially considering that she's already figured out what qualities he's gotta have.

Nina told Cosmo, "You either have chemistry or you don't, but a lot of what attracts me is a guy's mind and humor and talent. I need to get to know all those things before I fall for someone. I'm not a one-night-stand kind of girl. I'm a relationship girl." Aw, good for her! Although, let's be real: What woman would openly say she's a "one-night-stand kind of girl"? Haa ... I'd guess not many! But no, really, from Nina, I believe it. She really seems to have her head on straight when it comes to finding the right serious relationship.

All too often, people say they want a serious relationship but continue to carry a torch for (or keep hooking up with!) an old flame who's never going to commit. Or have a friend with benefits. Or keep falling for and prey to the same hot but empty or emotionally detached guy. These are all totally easy traps to fall into! But hooking up with or being hung up on losers only serves to set yourself even further back from finding a winner.  

So, good for Nina to know what she wants -- and realize that's not going to happen in the form of a hookup. What's more, it sounds like she knows HERSELF, which is undoubtedly key to forging a lasting bond.

She underlined her interest in maintaining her independence, noting:

People aren't defined by their relationships. The whole point is being true to yourself and not losing yourself in relationships, whether romances or friendships.

Cheers to that, Nina. Sounds like she's well on her way to finding that happy, healthy relationship she deserves!

What do you think about Nina declaring herself a "relationship girl"? Do you think hookups get in the way of finding the right person?


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Elaine Cox

if you gotta put it in the streets..then most likely its a lie

nonmember avatar sandy

Sure, there are "relationship girls," and there are "one-night stand girls." The thing is, like the yin-yang circle, there is a drop of the other in each. For example, I am most definitely a "relationship girl," but in my 20s, I had a handful of one-time, steamy make-outs. I also twice had extremely short-lived and clearly go-nowhere flings, but those were a product of the times (1980s), my experimenting 20-something self, and the mindset of the young men I was with. But over the course of 20 years, I was in three longterm relationships: 4 years, 5 years, and 10 years. And now, as a much older woman, sex for the sake of sex or distraction holds no allure; I am 100% a "relationship girl." In fact, I would go so far as to say I am a "lightning bolt woman": unless I am struck by a feeling so strong that i am swept off my feet, I won't give it much thought.

nonmember avatar sare porterhelm

I am a relationship kinda girl. I have been with the same person for 4.5 years. Im 26 and dont really see myself as having a fling. I love long relationships and having that bond with the person ur with.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

I'm definitely a relationship girl. My conscience is too overactive to be anything but. I've been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years.

nonmember avatar Juanita

I'm a relationship girl. I have been with guy for 15 yrs. This September. If I was to find myself single again, I'm pretty sure I'll stay single for a long time. Just the thought of starting over with someone else is scary

nonmember avatar Sarah

@ Maressa Brown
Can't believe that you finally wrote something positive about Nina. Must be a record for yourself.

We're still wondering just how she seemingly got over her breakup with Ian Somerhalder so quickly!

Keep wondering. Maybe she was miserable or maybe the relationship was ending for sometime. It was sudden for fans, not for the couple. This is what life is. We move on and it is a healthy approach rather than moping around. Try it yourself and move on from your obsession of Ian and Nina as a couple.

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