Lea Michele Accused of 'Controlling' Cory Monteith When She Was Actually a Godsend

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lea michele cory monteith So much is coming out about Cory Monteith's life and death at such a rapid pace right now that it's hard to know what's true and what's being exaggerated, but one thing is clear: Now-grieving girlfriend Lea Michele was a hugely protective, positive force in his life ... Which makes it even more annoying that she's being painted as something of a control freak.

TMZ reports that sources close to the couple say Lea "swooped in when Cory died and immediately took over planning his memorial and other matters connected with his death." And before the tragic turn of events, she "fiercely protected him ... as much as she could, especially when it came to his substance abuse." For instance, she reportedly took the reins on his intervention, getting him into rehab, and giving him an ultimatum to clean up or she'd walk.

To some that may seem "controlling," but I'd describe it as being the best damn girlfriend Cory could've possibly had!

To me, what Lea did for Cory -- and what she's continuing to do -- is what you do when you care deeply for someone. You protect them and support them, but also sometimes push them to take better care of themselves.

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I've told my husband on multiple occasions -- whether it was when he was riding a motorcycle or acting resistant to addressing a health issue -- that he's gotta take care of himself. For both of our sakes. Because I love him, I want what's best and safest for him. I'm his biggest advocate. Of course, I can only say and do so much, even as his wife. Ultimately, it's up to him to make the right decisions and look out for himself. Still, I'm certain the influence of a protective partner, who always has your back, is overwhelmingly positive.

Hence why it's so wrong to use the words "controlling" and protective interchangeably -- especially in Lea's case. Sounds to me like she did everything she could to help Cory steer in the right direction. Now she's the one who needs all the support she can get and reassurance that she loved and cared for him as best she could, in the best possible way.

What do you think is the difference between being "controlling" and protective of your partner?


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nonmember avatar Meghan

I think people are speculating too much and confusing Lea with her character from Glee (Rachel Berry is definitely a spastic control freak!). As for the ultimatum on drugs... That doesn't sound controlling at all. That sounds like she truly cared and wanted the best for him

Jacobet Jacobet

I saw TMZ headlined with that as well and felt sad for Lea. I don't think she deserves that right now. TMZ is so sleazy. When Heath Ledger died everyone made Michelle Williams out to be a saint, why can't Lea get the same respect? I am not a fan of Glee or anything but she seems like a good girl and she is going through something horrible.

nonmember avatar Kristi

Jacobet-Michelle Williams was not in a relationship with Heath Ledger at the time of his OD. Not that it matters anyway. An overdose is only the fault of the person OD-ing so blaming the family-friends-or anything else is pointless.

Brenda Kenna

I feel that lea was doing the best for him and it must have been hard for her to show tough love. My heart goes out to lea and Cory's family may he Rip. I still love glee

Shelby Breazeale

I think Lea did the right thing, however, I think Lea let him leave her protection too soon! If Lea would have went to Canada with Cory he may have still been here with us. Not saying it was her fault, I just think that with him having her there caring for him and being by his side it took his mind off drugs. I am VERY saddened by his death and I feel for Lea and I don't think she ever 'controlled' him. She guided him and opened his eyes to a better life in my opinion. I think both Cory and Lea didn't realize that Cory was still in a very vulnerable state and needed some more guidance. R.I.P Sweet Angel; you are so missed! <3

chech... chechimansmama

Cory Monteith had a very strong guardian angel by his side ... his girlfriend Lea Michele, who essentially controlled Cory in life and even death.

This is the first sentence of that report from TMZ.. Speculation much.. You make it seem as if they made it out that she was "controlling" in a bad way.

nonmember avatar Irish

Cory dieing this young and out of no where is hard for a lot of people. His friends who perhaps pushed him , his parents and Lea who wished they could just fix the problem. But addiction is hard to fix. I say Lea was doing a great job and If Cory really didn't like it, he would have walked. Sometimes accidents happen, And sometimes we wish it was Lindsay lohan instead of a great guy like Cory who was Trying to change his life. Either way I say good job for Lea, And lets face it. Till it comes out of Lea's mouth It's all Rumors!

SaphireH SaphireH

I don't see where Lea did anything wrong, she went great lengths to keep him alive because she loved him and didnt want his mom or herself to go through the heartbreak that still unfortunately happened. She did the right thing but sadly still lost him.

Liz Weaver

chechimansmama, the headline was "Controlling Cory in Life and Death." Yeah, I think most people would get a very different reading off that than if, say, they had replaced "Controlling" with "Protecting." It carries a very different connotation.

I don't think she was trying to control his life so much as trying to save his life, but attempting to be both girlfriend and sober coach to a loved one battling a serious addiction is usually impossible. And let's keep in mind that any and or all of these "sources say" stories could be pure fabrications coming from tabloids desparate for clicks and hyper-aware that putting Cory's and Lea's names in a headline guarantees a flood of page views right now.  

Cathy Reardon Flubacher

she could try and protect him but an addict will not see ut that way....he needed  to hit bottom and his bottom was to low ..drugs are horrible 3 years clean i still have to remember the past and ask for help i wish corey did so..sad tragedy taht didnt have to happen....my prayers are with you leah   and family


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