Well, we finally know why Teen Mom stars Catelynn Lowell and Tyler Baltierra called off their wedding. This week's Couples Therapy gave us a look at the tough childhoods the Michigan teenagers went through. It also let us in on a private session between Tyler and celebrity therapist Jenn Berman.
And from the way Tyler was talking to Berman, there's no way he should marry Catelynn.
Tyler admitted to Berman that he sometimes wonders if he and Catelynn both settled for each other ... and if they're together because they're afraid of being with someone else. Not only are they bound as childhood sweethearts who had a child together and went through the difficult process of adoption, but they both came from tough childhoods.
During group therapy, Tyler revealed that he remembers his father finally coming home from prison when he was just 8 years old, only to then have to watch his dad tackled by police outside his home. At 8 years old, he was outside trying to pull the cops off his dad.
Catelynn's childhood memories were just as painful. She told the group that she remembered wild parties at her home when she was a little girl, often finding her mom passed out. At times Catelynn wasn't able to rouse her mom, and she feared she was dead. It wasn't until she met Tyler that Catelynn seems to have found any real happiness:
I had to go to Tyler's house, and thank God his mom, like saved me She took me in like her own and just let me live there.
But with the many people who have failed her over the years, Catelynn fears Tyler leaving her. He, on the other hand, fears letting her down.
Watching him talk to Berman, it's obvious Tyler feels trapped because he DOES love Catelynn, and he doesn't want to hurt her. But he dropped a lot of words tonight that are giant red flags for any couple getting married, words like "settling" and "easier just to."
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Those are NOT words you hear from an excited groom, someone who is ready to commit to a marriage. They ARE words you hear from someone destined for divorce.
Fortunately for these kids, Tyler has the maturity to put his foot down. He went to Catelynn and admitted he just isn't ready, and that he doesn't think she's ready either.
It was hard to watch Catelynn hide in bed and cry as her world fell apart. But knowing that these two are still together in real life (they just passed the nine-year mark of their anniversary) even though their wedding date has come and gone without them getting hitched, we do know they made it through this tough time.
And if they can make it through this, that should answer a lot of Tyler's questions.
What do you think of Tyler breaking things off?
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