Superman is single again. So is the possible future Mr. Christian Grey. Reportedly, the scrumptious Henry Cavill has split with Kaley Cuoco, the actress from Big Bang Theory. Which is kinda weird because in the past couple of weeks, they've been seen all over town together hand in hand. Hiking, eating sushi, and grocery shopping together. Hell, you don't go grocery shopping with someone unless you're serious! And don't they look cute grocery shopping together??
But if the relationship truly is kaput, it points to a classic dating danger: Getting involved with someone you had a crush on from afar. Both Kaley and Henry had given hints that the two were already crushing on each other before they began dating and that can spell disaster.
Kaley posted a photo of herself on Twitter, before the two were reportedly dating, of her sitting next to a Man of Steel poster, gazing adoringly into Henry's superhero eyes. And a source told US Weekly that Henry "always wanted to date" Kaley.
Methinks this was a case of falling for the fantasy and then realizing the reality didn't quite match up. We've all done it. You see someone you are attracted to and then begin filling in the blanks with your imagination. If you want to sleep with him, then you begin justifying that desire by imagining he's a great guy with a wonderful sense of humor who loves kids and puppies. But get to know him a little bit, and you realize he's kind of a dumb douche who lies and flirts with other women.
I'm not saying that is what happened with Kaley -- Henry is probably not a dumb douche. But it's definitely difficult to start off a relationship with an idealized fantasy of what someone is like because that person is inevitably going to disappoint your expectations. At the end of the day, we're all human, and human beings have flaws. Maybe Kaley thought he WAS Superman and he thought she WAS her character from TV.
In fact, sources say that their passion "fizzled" after a few weeks. Smacks of too high expectations.
Of course, some crushes are so dementedly gung-ho that you simply cannot and will not see past your fantasy even if the person is totally not that vision at all. He's that to you. To everyone else, we're just baffled what you see in him.
The quickness of this split makes me think that the two of them went from infatuated to disillusioned. And they did it faster than a speeding bullet. Oh, well, at least they got some hot sex out of it. Hopefully.
Have you ever dated a crush and been disappointed?
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