If it's one thing I know in this life, it's that there is something seriously wrong if you don't want to have sex with George Clooney. More rumors are coming out about why George and his girlfriend Stacy Keibler called it quits, and apparently it's not so much that Stacy wanted to have kids and permanently kid-free George refused -- it's that the gorgeous couple had grown apart in recent months and even hadn't had sex in ages! What?! That's like having a four-star chef in your kitchen and refusing to eat.
In all seriousness, folks, even George Clooney can hit a dry spell. Fact is, if there's something wrong in the relationship, sex can often go by the wayside. Sure, Stacy was living in Los Angeles, and George was off filming in Europe -- but that's what private planes are for! To get closer to your partner's privates!
It's not unusual to hit a dry spell, but it's very important to not ignore it, and to not assume "it will get better" -- you've got to face head on why sex isn't happening.
Couples can often hit dry spells after a baby is born. Everyone is exhausted. Momma just had her insides turned out. Her vajay is bruised and battered. She's got a new human being hanging off her boobs. Baby becomes the priority. But there are still ways you can feel close and intimate -- sleeping together in bed with baby in the middle. Holding hands. Kissing. Telling each other how much you love each other.
There's a host of other reasons for dry spells, everything from a hormonal imbalance to loss of testosterone to stress to relationship issues that aren't being properly communicated and addressed.
That isn't to say that the hot passion of the early years should just continue on throughout the length of a relationship without fading -- that's unrealistic. But a complete lack of sex needs to be discussed. Not argued about. Not used as a weapon or a way to blame. But discussed non-defensively and without accusations. In other words, don't start out your talk with, "So are you having an affair?" or "Are you gay?" even though those might be the actual reasons that the sizzle has fizzled.
Instead, tell your partner that you miss him or her sexually (if you do) and want to improve things and feel closer. Listen sympathetically to what he/she has to say. Definitely get into couples' counseling. Read books about improving your relationship and sex life. Try to do high energy activities together that gets the adrenaline pumping.
A short dry spell is perfectly normal, but if it goes on and on ... and past the point where it even bothers you anymore, because you think, "Well, who cares about sex anyway?" then you really need a sitdown.
Looks like George and Stacy had one (via the old-fashioned phone call) and decided the best thing for them was breaking up. Maybe it's the best thing for you too, but try other avenues first.
Have you ever had a dry spell? What did you do about it?
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