kate middleton prince williamWe're days -- hours, perhaps?! -- away from welcoming Kate Middleton and Prince William's baby into the world ... which means it's the perfect time to reflect on how the royal lovebirds made it to this exciting point in their relationship. It feels like only yesterday they were calling it quits. What, don't you remember? Before they were the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, they broke up in 2007 after dating for four years ... I know, total bummer. We never really had many details of that bleak moment in time ... until NOW. A new book called Kate by Marcia Moody reveals intimate breakup details.

She writes, "When his father Charles was wooing Diana and the relationship reached a crossroads, Prince Philip told him that he needed to take action one way or another. And Charles proposed. When William was faced with a similar dilemma he went the other way." The funny thing is, it really was for the best.

Of course Kate didn't see the devastating breakup that way initially, according to Moody. Especially not when Wills went to a London nightclub, flirted with tons of girls, and even stood on a table at one point and screamed, "I'm free" (OMG.) So, then, Kate flirted up a storm on her own. According to Moody's book: "Her dresses grew shorter, her tops lower ... Once inside a party she put on a pair of pink silk bunny ears and proceeded, as one partygoer put it, to 'tease all the boys.'" 

The turning point? Moody says that Wills was compelled by his dad Prince Charles' realization that he failed to marry his first true love, Camilla Shand. And from that point on, he did everything he could to get Kate back. He's said of the split:

We were both finding ourselves and being different characters. It was very much trying to find our own way and we were growing up so it was just a bit of space and it worked out for the better.

Yup, makes perfect sense. That's exactly what so many couples I know have had to do to arrive at their final destination of "happily married with children." In fact, I feel like it happens so often, and it's such an important stepping stone for some couples to figure out that they want to be together, it makes that whole case for never getting back with an ex look like BS. It makes the case that sometimes a breakup doesn't necessarily mean it's broken but evolving. That evolution part is key, though, because without it, there's no moving forward.

The royal couple apparently discussed how the relationship had evolved and what they planned to do to move forward when they vacayed in Seychelles in September 2007. Moody writes:

It was during this break that they made an agreement with each other. For the next few years, they would work and enjoy their lives, knowing that at some point when the time was right, they would be husband and wife -- and perhaps parents too.

Love it. Who knows if they would have had such a clear vision of what they wanted had they not broken up, had that space, been able to know what they were missing with one another? Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying a breakup is always necessary to realize that. But for many couples, especially those who've met very young, it is -- and there's no shame in that. Especially knowing it's something the royal couple themselves had to do!

Do you believe a breakup is sometimes necessary for a relationship to evolve?

 

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