Demi Lovato Doesn't Deserve Hate for Raw Confessions About Abuse & Suicidal Feelings

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Demi LovatoA few years ago, Demi Lovato entered a treatment facility for what was then described vaguely as "physical and emotional issues." Lovato later acknowledged having suffered from bulimia, self-injury, and self-medicating with drugs and alcohol. She said that she'd "basically had a nervous breakdown" and had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder during her treatment. She's talked about being bullied as a teenager, and now she's opening up about the trauma she experienced when she was even younger -- starting with suicidal feelings Lovato experienced when she was just 7 years old.

It's quite the revelation, especially when you consider the dark lyrics to her new song "Warrior." I have enormous respect for her honesty -- but judging from some of the public comments about her latest interview, some folks are going to be all too happy to use her own confessions to tear her down.

In the August issue of Cosmopolitan, Lovato talks about her first childhood gig with Barney & Friends, and how despite appearances, she was struggling at the time:

Looking back, there was a connection, probably between any kid who's ever sang that song to Barney, a little place in a child's heart, a void, that could be filled. And maybe Barney fills it. Even before Barney, I was suicidal. I was 7.

I guess subliminally, I did have a relationship with this figure that was saving my life in a way. I've talked about being bullied and the years of being a teenager, but I went through things when I was younger that I've never talked about that probably caused me to turn out the way I ended up turning out.

Lovato also touches on the (sadly all-too-obvious) meaning behind her song "Warrior," which includes these lyrics: "This is a story that I have never told / I gotta get this off my chest to let it go / I need to take back the light inside you stole (...) There's a part of me I can't get back / A little girl grew up too fast / All it took was once, I'll never be the same / Now I'm taking back my life today."

My family knows what it's about. When I'm ready to open up that subject with the outside world, then I'll be free to talk about it. But right now, it's kind of one of those things where the lyrics speak for me. It's all in the song.

Demi Lovato has clearly been dealing with a LOT of painful issues over the years, and I suspect that being as open and honest as possible is a big part of her recovery. It seems crazy to me that anyone could criticize her decisions to share her own personal story, but that's exactly what's happening now:

When she first started talking about her issues years ago, I really admired her bravery. But now she's just beating down a dead horse.

It's hip to be abused! She forgot attention addict. This is how irrelevant "celebs" stay in the spotlight.

She seems to be immersed in self pity. Enough already. We all have problems but we suck it up and get on with our lives.

Ah, the crazy world of celebrity worship, where you're damned if you do, and damned if you don't. If Demi Lovato was burying her pain in drugs and alcohol, she'd be jeered at for being a trainwreck. If she hinted at her troubles but never mentioned them again, she'd be criticized for not being a role model.

Here's a young woman, not even 21 years old, who may be helping thousands of people by going public with these taboo topics, and she's accused of being a famewhore? You know, I'm pretty sure "SUICIDAL AT 7 OMFG!!!" isn't Demi Lovato's dream come true in terms of headlines. I think she talks about this stuff because it helps her, and it helps others -- and I hope she's able to ignore the backlash and hold her head high, because she deserves major kudos for being braver than most people twice her age.

What do you think about Demi Lovato's latest revelations? Do you think she's courageous for being open about her life, or do you think she should stop?

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nonmember avatar Anowscara

Demi's openness takes courage. She is proud of herself for dealing with her demons and overcoming them in a healthy, positive way. That's admirable. She's also helping remove the idea that life is easy street for people who are rich, famous, or both. She succeeds in spite of her troubles, and I hope she is inspiring other kids who are troubled to do the same. I think that's her intention. Go Demi!

nonmember avatar Mary

Demi has been such an inspiration to me, as I've gone through the same things. It took a lot of courage for her to open up about it and to continue to talk about it, it's not beating down a dead horse. I still talk about my emotional pain and overcoming it to this day, to try be an encouragement locally for those who may be going through it as well. Demi's voice is louder and is being heard world wide, inspiring a lot more people than I ever could. I applaud her for it.

Todd Vrancic

If you don't like what she is saying, you don't have to watch or listen, but she needs to talk about it, admit that it happened, in order to deal with it.  She isn't doing it to get attention, she's working through her issues and I'm sorry if she doesn't fit some judgemental idiot's timetable for healing.

Pixie030 Pixie030

She seems stronger than I was at that age.. but it also took me later years of going crazygirl for a bit before I stopped fighting what was trapped inside my brain and got professional help. People all too commonly when something horrible happens to you especially at such a young age first start off by trying to shut it out, either by doing more extreme things to push it back out of your mind or to numb it with drinking or drugs. I did the drinking and the pill popping and weed smoking. I stopped it all when I wanted a family got married and had my kids but that lingering need to feel good inside and having a permanently injured lower spine got me back on abusing pain pills. After I got tired of feeling that addiction and it starting to control me I told my family and let them help me and stayed a week in the hospital to get it taken care of. It wasn't until my very late 20s before I told my mom about the few incidents with men abusing me. I don't remember if I told her about the childhood ones, but I have actually spoke about it to a few I trusted so it's finally not just a dark pit inside of me. One of my mom's responses after me telling her about my days of partying and hanging out days and nights with people who were doing the same things but that I didn't know very well at the time.. "I'm surprised you weren't raped more than what you were." But knowing my mom, she has very little trust in any man.

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