Somewhere along the line, I became a fan of L.A. Ink tattoo artist Kat Von D. It's not because I watch her show, or that I'm particularly interested in her clothing or makeup line. The reason I like her has almost everything to do with what she shares on Instagram, where she comes across as a warm, interesting, passionate person. The little photographic snippets of her life showed a happy woman pursuing her art, music, and business interests, while planning a splashy Lovecraft-themed wedding to the man she seemed so deeply in love with.
Anyway, I've become invested enough in this total stranger's life that I was downright shocked to hear that she'd broken off her engagement to music producer/performer Deadmau5. Not only has the relationship ended, but it's turned into yet another public he-said/she-said cheating scandal -- just like her nasty split with Sandra Bullock's ex-husband Jesse James.
If you remember, Kat Von D was briefly engaged to Jesse James in 2011 in the wake of his much-publicized divorce from Sandra Bullock. She's often accused of being the woman he cheated on Bullock with, but that was actually Michelle "Bombshell" McGee, another heavily-inked brunette.
Anyway, when James and Von D ended the engagement they initially kept the details vague "out of respect," but soon enough Von D spilled the real reason for the breakup: James had cheated on her with not one, not two, but nineteen women.
She wrote that while she regretted the relationship, she was glad for the lesson:
Not to worry, I've gladly paid the consequences for every mistake I've ever made, but learned so much from each of them. Time is something you can never get back, and what we do with this very present moment is the most real thing we have. So if that's the lesson Jesse forced me to face and learn by all of this, than all I can say is Thank You.
I actually felt really sorry for her during that whole mess, despite the fact that almost anyone would have said she should have seen it coming. She really put herself out there when she gave James a chance, and she got burned SO badly as a result.
I was happy to hear that she'd hooked up with Deadmau5 and seemed so content with him, but that relationship publicly fizzled last November. At the time, she wrote on Twitter,
Man, I sure was wrong. But at least he made it a no-brainer to break that off. #lessonlearned. / Now, we can get all of the ‘I told you so’s’ outta the way ... And move on.
They got back together, though, and two months later he proposed -- also via Twitter. Everything has seemed perfectly great since then, until the post from Von D two days ago:
Cheating on your loved one is the most hurtful thing one could do. I hate to have to admit that this relationship is indeed over...Onwards and upwards.
For his part, Deadmau5 wrote,
Kat and I split in November and I moved back home to Toronto. During this time, while we were broken up, I did have relations with another woman. Following that, Kat and I reconciled and I acknowledged being intimate with another person while we were estranged.
We did move past those issues, and I proposed to Kat in mid-December. At the end of June, it was clear that the relationship was not working and we mutually ended the engagement. I was not, at any point, unfaithful to Kat during our time together.
What a total mess, right? It's like the Jesse James thing all over again, and I'm sure there are plenty of folks who wonder why she lets this stuff play out in such a big way on social media.
Personally, I can't blame her for sharing her thoughts. I've worked out plenty of my own issues in a not-so-private manner, and it can be incredibly therapeutic to open your heart when you're hurting. On the other hand, I imagine that in her case she's getting a ton of backlash from people who think she's a famewhore or just a fool when it comes to relationships.
To me, though, she comes across as a romantic, someone who maybe lets emotions come before logic. She also obviously wants to connect directly with her fans instead of issuing statements through a publicist. It's not a bad thing -- in fact, it's what makes her such a likable celebrity, at least to me. Hopefully the back-and-forth accusations will immediately cease and desist so both parties can get on with their lives.
What do you think about Kat Von D's latest breakup? Are you surprised?
Image via Kat Von D