I know that after tonight's episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County, we're supposed to feel sorry for Tamra Barney, but I'm just not feeling it. In a keynote speech at a women's conference, she talked about how her parents never told her they loved her growing up, and how that made her unable to express her emotions, and how basically that's why she's so nasty to people
That's too bad. Really, I wish her parents had told her they'd loved her, but it's just not an excuse for her behavior, and hearing her attempt to explain it all away and blame her parents for everything was the opposite of inspiring. Plenty of people have had upbringings much, much worse than hers and don't act like she does. I feel bad that she had a tough time of it growing up and was saddened to hear that she attempted suicide in her 20s, but it doesn't in any way excuse her mean girl behavior.
We all have pasts, many of them not ideal, and while we can look to them for some answers, we can't just be a bitch and expect it to be okay. She's the one who throws the wine; she's the one who throws people out of parties; she's the one who can't control herself. Her upbringing may have contributed to her impulses, but she should be in control of them.
She did say she wants to change, and if that's the case, then great -- show us. Right now, it feels like she's just playing sympathy cards and trying to win back viewers who have turned against her after we've seen her viciously attack too many people. Previews for next week do show her talking with Alexis Bellino in what could be a nice way, however, so maybe there's hope. We'll see.
Elsewhere, Vicki Gunvalson did the right thing when she chose to watch her grandson instead of heading to a hotel for the weekend with Brooks Ayers. Go Vicki.
Terry Dubrow may finally be out of the doghouse with Heather after mentioning the "D" word, and hopefully we can put a rest to that tiresome, seemingly contrived drama. Gretchen Rossi went to a fertility specialist who declared her reproductive organs to be all plump and lush, but still suggested she and Slade Smiley undergo IVF instead of trying for a baby the traditional way due to his vasectomy 10 years ago. Oh, and Lydia McLaughlin has decided to get over her mom's pot smoking -- it's about time.
All in all it was an episode of love, peace, and reconciliation -- i.e., boring. Hopefully that means something major is bound to go down soon.
What do you think of Tamra blaming her bad behavior on her childhood?
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