Ian Somerhalder & Nina DobrevI know you're all, like, so TOTALLY freaking out because Ian Somerhalder is allegedly single. Yes, if you missed last week's major bomb: Ian and longtime girlfriend Nina Dobrev broke up. It's like everything we once knew about vampire perfection is now ... WRECKED!

Well get this -- sources are saying that the big breakup is because Ian cheated on Nina. Ian ... a cheater?! But Nina's so beautiful. And I thought Ian was, like, perfect? The man does insane amounts of charity work, and he has those perfect EYES! I feel as if my world is crumbling around me.

OK, I'm in over my head here. Allegedly friends of the duo are saying that Ian may have made a major mistake and Nina just can't forgive him. Heck, if it's true, I can't blame her. Cheating in a relationship is one of the hardest things someone in love will ever deal with.

The hardest part is that it's not like you can just flick a switch and stop caring about someone, especially someone you love. When someone cheats in a relationship but doesn't want to end things, you're both in a wretched position. Both individuals have to question why did this happen? What will this change for us? And possibly the worst one of all: Is what we had just not good enough anymore?

In my experience -- I've found that someone who cheats with you or on you is more than likely to do it again. Sure, there are one-offs. I have a great friend who has been in her relationship for five years now, but her boyfriend cheated after year one. Sure, it took them time to regain that trust back, but once they did, they were golden. Soon they'll get engaged and I have no doubt in my mind they'll spend the rest of their lives in a happy, blissful, committed relationship.

So yes, its situational. Clearly if Ian cheated, it's something that Nina doesn't think she can get over, and hey, that's OK. But if Ian's truly back on the market, then he better watch out: I know a handful of women myself who wouldn't mind a date.

Have you ever been cheated on? Did you stay in the relationship or get out?

 

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