julia robertsWeddings are supposed to be one of the most joyful days of your life. And that's why I strongly advocate leaving certain people (yes, even family members) off the guest list! Or if you're a less than enthusiastic invitee, bowing out and checking "regrets" if you were to be less than joyful on the big day. The latter is what it sounds like Julia Roberts has decided to do when it comes to her half-sister, Nancy Mote's wedding.

Yeah, Julia's personal life has seemed to be nothing but smooth sailing for several years, but according to The National Enquirer (I know, I know), she's dealing with a nasty family feud right now, because she's no fan of Nancy's fiance, John Dilbeck ... But it sounds like she has perfectly good reason to be against the union -- and to have opted out of being a bridesmaid.

According to an insider, "Julia doesn't think much of Nancy's husband-to-be. She's convinced he's sponging off Nancy, who doesn't have much money in the first place." Apparently, the couple moved out to L.A. from Georgia, and John worked at a Panda Express. But as soon as Nancy scored a job as a production assistant on Glee -- a gig Julia helped hook her lil' sis up with -- John quit. Yep, definitely sounds fishy! Sure, it's the Enquirer, but given these details, the idea that Julia's afraid she may get stuck with the bill isn't so crazy.

When it comes to money and family and weddings, it really is better to just steer clear of any potential conflict before it unfolds. I don't blame Julia in the least from politely declining to be a part of this wedding. I have the utmost respect for anyone who decides to boycott someone's wedding because they take issue with the marriage or, on the flipside, couples who decide not to include a certain person, because there would be more misery than joy were they to show up. 

Weddings are stressful enough without consciously inviting drama and bad blood into the mix. That's something my now-husband and I had to face while planning our wedding, and I'm relieved we were on the same page about it. 

I'm sure it was a tough call, but if Julia believes it's best to keep her distance, that's a tough reality her half-sis is just going to have to live with. 

Have you ever had to decline a wedding invite because you didn't approve of the marriage? How about keep certain people off the guest list to minimize stress and drama?


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