Gwyneth Paltrow Gives X-Rated Advice for Winning a Fight With Your Spouse

gwyneth paltrowGwyneth Paltrow isn't exactly known for holding back how she really feels, but apparently, in her personal life, she's even more no-holds-barred. Chelsea Handler dished on Chelsea Lately that Gwyneth gave relationship advice to a mutual friend at a party that was, hmm, shall we say, not exactly G-rated!

Chelsea explained, "We were at this dinner party one night and a girl was asking advice. And [Gwyneth's] an amazing advice-giver. And one of her friends is like, 'I got in a big fight with my husband and I went home and I just wanted to scream and yell.'" Gwyneth's tip for the friend?

As Chelsea put it:

... and you're like, "Whatever you're feeling, do the opposite. Go at him with love and you give him a b**wjob."

Ha, oookay then! Gwyneth cringed and balked at the anecdote, wringing her hands about her mom finding out she said that, so we know it was completely true! But you know, I can't exactly say I disagree with her.

Sure, having sex is likely the LAST thing you want to do when you're angry with your spouse. But it may truly be one of the best things. After all, there's nothing like doing it to feel more intimate. And anything that helps you feel closer to your partner can help promote compassion, sympathy, open lines of communication. It's actually sort of brilliant when you think about it!

Still, Gwyneth didn't have to put it that way. The way she makes it sound is like she is endorsing using sex as a weapon in your relationship -- or at least as a way to manipulate a situation, and, uh, that's never healthy!

How do you feel about Gwyneth's advice?


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redK8... redK8blueSt8

It doesn't sound like using sex as a weapon is what is endorsed here. Not unless the whole rest of the conversation following  "...give him a b**wjob." was on using it as manipulation.

Basically her advice is to be loving and kind and generous when you feel like being b**chy and mean and depriving. Sounds great, that whole golden rule concept.

Histo... HistoryMamaX3

It doesn't matter what Gwyneth could have said... it could have been the most thought provoking piece of marital advice mankind ever came up with, and people would still hate it because SHE said it. lol

cleig... cleigh717

I think me and Gwen r the same person.

tuffy... tuffymama

It's sound advice. DH and I use a similar strategy sometimes and it helps smooth things right over. Can't really be too argumentative and testy in the afterglow.

tessi... tessiekat

I agree with redK8blueSt8. Its the Golden Rule. You don't have to use sex, instead of yelling at him, do something nice for him. A b**wjob is one way, but bringing him a beer and turning on his favorite TV show work just as well...

hello... hellokd87

It works. I've always used that tactic (mostly because my sweetie pie's always one to go from 0-60 in a split second) because it calms him down. Wait, did "I" give Gwynnie that advice first?! :-P

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