Giuliana and Bill Rancic seem like the perfect couple, so it's hard to believe that there was a time when Giuliana rejected Bill. Back when they first started dating, Giuliana apparently wasn't too keen on him. "I tried to make the first move and I was rejected!" he said on an episode of their new show, Ready for Love. But it turns out that Bill wasn't exactly rejected. Giuliana just wanted to take things sloooowly. In other words, she was playing hard to get. She probably memorized The Rules before their date. She did it all to snag Bill. And it worked. Sneaky bugger.
Giuliana says that she rejected Bill because she was determined to go on three dates before she kissed him. Said Giuliana:
That was one of my rules -- no kiss for at least three dates. I didn't want to be the "kissing bandit."
I guess Bill didn't mind the brush-off because the pair were married in 2007 and have been going strong ever since. They just had their first child (by surrogate), Duke. And Giuliana ruffled sactimommies everywhere by admitting she puts her husband before her child. Ooooohhh. Scandale.
I think there are definitely some pros to taking things slowly and not giving into a man's physical demands right away. For one, you really do get a sense as to whether he wants to put in the time to get to know you as a human being or not. If not, and he just wants to hit that thang, he'll be off like a shot after the first finger-wagging "nah uh you don't."
Studies have shown that both men and women tend to "value" what takes longer to acquire than what comes to them right away. So, it might seem silly to force yourself to wait on a kiss or touch that you both desperately want, but waiting means you're seen as more "valuable" -- even if it's on a subconscious level.
On the other hand, I'm not a big fan of game playing either. Nor do I believe that plotting out every step of your courtship a la "If I wait three dates for this; six dates for that; and 12 dates for this" will guarantee you a solid relationship. If that were the case, we'd all be doing it.
But at the end of the day, there's probably less harm in waiting a few dates even if you're raring to go than in giving into your hormonal urges -- no matter how raring they are.
How long did it take before you got physical with your spouse?
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