Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith have always been rumored to have an open marriage and now Jada has come clean about the truth during an interview with Huffington Post Live. And what a truth it is. It turns out, they don't exactly have an "open" marriage, but Jada is OK with Will doing what he needs to do so long as it is respectful.
I say good on them. They have longevity, something that is missing in so many Hollywood marriages. They seem happy and like they genuinely enjoy each other and they make their own rules. These are the keys to a good marriage.
Would it work for me? Probably not. I am a jealous type. But far be it from me to say what works for others. Here is what Jada said:
I've always told Will: You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be okay. Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I'm here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that's not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.
AMEN. If more people said what Jada is saying, there would be a lot less divorce and misery in marriage. This is not for everyone. It is not for me. But what IS for me is allowing my husband some freedom.
I was lucky enough to marry a man who was not jealous and he let me do a lot of exploring. I hung out with friends, some of whom were male. I traveled to visit people and did things on my own for a long, long time.
Because my husband has always respected my individuality and given me freedom, I have always been respectful of our marriage. I know what would hurt him and I don't do those things. Freedom makes a good marriage and everyone has a different point at which they would be hurt.
Love does not mean holding people to archaic rules. Marriage vows are not one size fits all. Sorry. They aren't. Some may want to take traditional vows and have a totally monogamous marriage. That's fine by me. But others may want to be open and welcome in other lovers and whatever else and you know what? That's fine by me, too. It's not my business.
Marriage is whatever two consenting adults say it should be. If they can make it 16 years, why should we question them. Rock on Will and Jada! Keep doing what you are doing!
Do you think "open" marriage is wrong?