Carrie Underwood Reveals How She Keeps Her Marriage Afloat

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carrie underwood mike fisherWith the huge pop-country career and a hottie NHL player hubby Mike Fisher, Carrie Underwood may seem like she's got it all, but she sounds like a lot of my friends who are married to guy guys. You know the type. He's gotta watch the game, clean out his car, throw a football around with his brother before remembering, oops, it's the anniversary! Gonna go get a drugstore card and some flowers! (Maybe. If they're lucky.)

Don't get me wrong. I'm not having a misandrist moment here. It's just a harsh reality that many men aren't out-of-the-blue romantic. (Just like there are many women who aren't either!) Sometimes, these people need a little prodding. And Mike's definitely that way, Carrie admits to Britain's OK! magazine.

She confesses:

He never was romantic. His brain is like most men's; he just doesn't think that way. But it makes those little gestures he does very special. Sometimes I prompt him and say, 'For my birthday I want something romantic,' and he then has to figure out what to do and put effort in. I don't care what it is, you don't have to buy me anything -- just do something romantic.

Oh, have I been there! My fiance shows me how much he cares in so many ways, on a daily basis. But when it comes to the more conventionally "romantic" gestures like Carrie mentions, he often needs a nudge. A reminder. Just some encouragement to know that anniversary card or birthday date night really can't fall by the wayside, because we're super-stressed, busy, and booked up the wazoo this week/month/year.

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I've heard it gets harder the longer you've been married. That the volume on the romance gets turned down more and more as you get more and more comfortable. But I refuse to believe that has to be the case. Our happily committed guys should be thoughtful, but they're not always indulging in the same romantic fantasies as us, and they're not psychic either! So there's definitely nothing wrong with spelling it out, like Carrie is wise to do for her well-meaning but not necessarily romantically-inclined man.

How do you prod your guy for romantic gestures?


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BlueJane BlueJane

My dh always says men can't take hints. If you want something, just say it. I've listened to that advice and we've never had a problem. It would be nice to get some flowers as a surprise but I'm not holding my breath.

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

Ha! I was raised by my father and one thing he taught me when it came to dating is that men are not mind readers. If you want your man to let you sleep in and serve you breakfast in bed on Mother's Day, then tell him!!!! Then if he doesn't do it, he royally f'd up. But more than likely, the more specific you are the less confused they are and you'll get exactly what you want. Men are not good at these things. I tell my husband everything I want him to do, that way I'm never trying to drop hints and hoping that he catches on. Because then that would set me up for disappointment.

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

But you say it in a nice way of course. Like for example "for Mother's Day I would really like to sleep in for like an extra hour and then maybe you and the kids can bring breakfast up to the room and we can all eat together".

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