Kate Winslet’s Divorce Confession Is Totally Unexpected

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kate winslet harper's bazaarActress Kate Winslet's love life sounds like something out of one of her movies. First she married and divorced director Jim Threapleton. Then she married director Sam Mendes. Rumor has it he had an affair, so they divorced after seven years. And then, while on vacation with her model boyfriend on Richard Branson's island, she escaped a fire, broke up with her boyfriend that day, and ended up marrying another guest who survived that fire, Ned Rocknroll.

Now Kate Winslet is talking about her divorce in this month's UK Harper's Bazaar, and I have to say -- as crazy as her life sounds, I like what she says about divorce. She says it's made her stronger. Well, take it from a woman who's been twice divorced and is still out there, giving love another try, divorce is definitely not the end of the world.

Here's what Kate says:

I've really learned a great deal about myself, in the last four years in particular. I think I can see more clearly now -- about how the pattern of past experiences has shaped who I am, and the characters I have played -- and I'm grateful for that.

I just love her attitude. No one gets divorced just for the personal growth. It's something most of us generally try to avoid! But ... if you do have to get divorced, why not use that as an opportunity for growth? If you're paying attention and really working at it, you can learn a lot about yourself and come out stronger and wiser.

All my life I saw divorce as something that ruins lives. It represented utter failure. Get divorced, and you'll end up just another tired, gray, bitter wreck, and your kids will grow up into miserable felons. Your life is totally over! Except that it's not. It's the beginning of a new life.

I worked very, very hard to avoid getting divorced. And then, finally, I realized that this was something I just couldn't fix and it was time to try something else. And this horrible thing I'd been dreading has turned out to be a gift. Thanks to therapy and a lot of hard work and thought, I have learned a lot about myself. It's still been challenging and a total bummer at times, and I'm probably still almost as crazy as Kate Winslet is (I mean, she married a guy who named himself "Rocknroll"). But the weirdest thing ... I'm actually more confident and at greater peace now than I was this same time last year.

Do you feel like divorce has made you or someone else you know stronger?

 

Image via Harper's Bazaar UK

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Coles... Coles_mom

My husband came home a few nights ago and announced he wanted a divorce. I'm scared witless. He holds all the cards. I don't have a job or money and he isn't going to play nice. He didn't even pay the house payment because he said he wasn't going to live there anymore. I don't have a job!!!! My name isn't on the bank account!!!! So learn from this? Yes, I will. I'm already learning how to cry and beg just not to be homeless.

nonmember avatar Penelope

Coles, be strong and borrow enough to see a lawyer IMMEDIATELY! I don't think there is a state in the union that won't give you emergency support, etc. No begging involved. Don't leave the house and don't make the house payment with any of your or borrowed money -they won't foreclose for a while and it is HIS credit you would be saving if your name is not on anything. Don't do it. Get to a lawyer TODAY!
Stay strong, prayers and good wishes to you!

Coles... Coles_mom

I got the eviction notice today. I have 24 hours to pay or be gone.

Coles... Coles_mom

It was a rental...btw....

nonmember avatar Iris brankert

Dont get in a panick about the 24 hrs. The landlord has to go thru the eviction process and it takes several weeks/months. It take a court order to evict you and that takes time. You do not have to have money to see an attorney, the first visit is free. Also in most states if you have no resources he is responsible for your legal fees. Do not let this man scare you run to the nearest attorney or call the legal aid society in your town. The legal aid society is for people who have no funds for an attorney. Speaking as a person who had the same thing happen, in a few years you will be thanking him for doing you a favor just do not let him get away with murder right now. Good luck and look forward to a happier life w/o him.

nonmember avatar Lazlo

OMG you can't compare a celebrity's situation to that of us common folk. Celebrities become head cases from the fact of celebrity. The whole incident with the fire and the dropping of one relationship and marrying someone else who was there attests to the craziness. People, when will you learn, do NOT take relationship advice or learning from a celebrity. Their lives are skewed beyond all recognition, as are their opinions of themselves and their "learning".

tuffy... tuffymama

Coles_Mom, listen to these ladies. Get that attorney!



Adriana, I understand the temptation to look to celebrities who have weathered divorce and claim so much "personal growth" from it, but really, growth comes from inside you and your determination to go on AND GROW. I'm on number three (and the only way anyone is leaving this marriage is in a bodybag), so I know from whence I speak. You cannot look to the super rich or crazy famous for guidance and inspiration for anything but moneymaking and fame-handling advice. They are creatures of a different species, and I am convinced people whose feet never HAVE to touch the ground necessarily develop some kooky ass personality disorders. Don't be like that. Be a sane, decent person and find a sane, decent person to love you and accept your love. Go to your roots, and go to your core.

nonmember avatar Michele

Divorce can never make your stronger. It tears you and your spouse apart!

stara... starandseen

I am not sure what that means, that divorce makes you stronger. I thought it was an emotional mess that scars you. To come to am intellectual conclusion that Kate does means the emotions of her past divorces aren't as strong, at least not at the moment she made that statement.

hexxuss hexxuss

Been divorced twice - and definitely learned.  I learned that I deserve to be treated well, that I do NOT have to settle for anything LESS than that, that I'm perfectly capable of taking care of myself AND my son ALL on my own, AND that I do NOT need a stupid ring & piece of paper.... no offense to the happily married, but that is MY opinion, and cannot be swayed - that's all those things are to me. Just things.


Coles - try divorcenet.com for your state - they have easy links & some basic advice.  Best wishes - you can get through this.  If his name is on the rental agreement, the landlord will go after HIM for payment in court, and your soon-to-be ex will lose.

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