I’ve always had a soft spot for Taylor Swift, and now I like her even more. The singing starlet covers the April issue of Vanity Fair, and she has some rather insightful points to make about the way her relationships -- or lack thereof -- are a constant source of media fodder and mockery.
Swift even has the gall to take on everyone’s fantasy BFFs, Tina Fey and Amy Poehler (and by "everyone", I mean me). Regarding their Golden Globes jokes about Swift’s notorious love life, Swift invoked a quote she says Katie Couric shared with her: "There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women."
Well now! I don’t think Amy and Tina are going to hell over their joke (it really wasn’t that bad), but Taylor does bring up a good point: why is it supposedly okay to make constant fun of Swift’s habit of dating a lot of different men? It’s bad enough that she’s on the cover of magazines that question why she can't find love or why she always "gets dumped." Shouldn’t older, more experienced women like Fey and Poehler offer a little more support, rather than playing into the bizarre amount of ridicule directed Swift’s way over her romantic escapades?
For crying out loud, people, Swift is 23 YEARS OLD! She’s SUPPOSED to be dating and experiencing break-ups and all that fun stuff. Isn’t that the whole point of being a 20-something?
Not that Swift has been as busy as we’d like to think. She's been linked with a roster of A-list names like Jake Gyllenhaal, John Mayer, and Taylor Lautner, but she says: "If you want some big revelation, since 2010 I have dated exactly two people" (referring to Conor Kennedy and One Direction’s Harry Styles). But even if she HAD dated five times that number of guys in the last two years, who cares? It’s such a tired old double standard, and Swift is right when she calls it out.
When asked if she's "boy crazy," Swift says:
For a female to write about her feelings, and then be portrayed as some clingy, insane, desperate girlfriend in need of making you marry her and have kids with her, I think that's taking something that potentially should be celebrated -- a woman writing about her feelings in a confessional way -- that's taking it and turning it and twisting it into something that is frankly a little sexist.
Amen, girl. The point isn’t how many guys she dates or doesn’t date, or what she uses as creative fodder for her songs. The point is sexism is alive and well, and we’re so used to it, we don’t even notice half the time. Where are all the stories about Justin Bieber’s desperate search for love? Puh-lease.
It’s exactly the same kind of thinking that ensured Jennifer Aniston would be plagued with "single and desperate" stories the moment Brad left her for Angie. Never mind that she’s a successful, independent woman; we only gave Aniston a break when she "finally" got a man to put a ring on it. And we laugh right along when other women make fun of Swift and her supposed dating woes, just like a bunch of mean girls.
Do you think we'd make the same fun of Taylor Swift if she were a 23-year-old guy?
Image via Vanity Fair