Just one of the many tough situations you can confront when you get divorced is who gets what in the friends department. Especially if the divorce is acrimonious, couples can often begin to split their friends up into "his" and "hers." And if your ex has more power, money, influence, or even charm than you do, it can seem as if all of the people you thought were your pals suddenly disappear, decamped to his corner, when you split. So pity Demi Moore. It must suck enough that Ashton Kutcher cheated on her, and then got together with one of his longtime friends, Mila Kunis, practically right after the split. But add to that that apparently one of her closest friends, Madonna, has reportedly sided with Ashton and invited him to one of the hottest parties of the year -- and cut Demi out.

Madonna's annual post-Oscar bash is one of the most celebrity-studded and it was only a few years ago that Demi Moore co-hosted it with her. But this year, sources say, Madonna snubbed Kabbalah buddy Demi in favor of inviting Ashton Kutcher. Why would Madge diss her pal like that? What about sisterhood?!

A source told RadarOnline:

Madonna is firmly on side Ashton. She adores him and thinks that out of him and Demi he’s the one with the glittering career. Also, Madonna loves having Ashton around as he’s great eye candy, he’s funny and he flirts outrageously with her -- in Madonna’s eyes, there’s no competition -- when it comes to picking sides Ashton is the obvious winner.

Gee, that's the way you should pick your friends -- who has the best career! Hey, Madonna didn't get where she is for nothing. Also, you've got to go with the one who flirts with you. (Eye-roll.)

One of the easiest things about my break with my ex-fiance was deciding who got who in the friends department. For some reason, even though he liked my friends and I liked his, we'd always known which friends really belonged to whom. But I did miss the fact that none of his pals, many of whom I liked, ever made contact with me again after our split, except for occasional Facebook wall posts.

But I have seen messy experiences with divvying up friends -- one guy I know went from friend to friend, demanding to know where their loyalties lay -- with him or his ex. Which I thought was kind of a crappy position to put his friends in, but this was an extremely acrimonious divorce.

Anyway, who knows what really happened with Madonna and Demi. Maybe they fell out awhile ago. Maybe Demi couldn't make the party and Madonna asked if it would be okay to invite Ashton and she said fine. I do get the feeling Madonna's loyalties usually lie with whomever is on "top" in Hollywood though.

But for me, if a friend -- a true friend of mine -- invited my ex to a party and not me? Well, that person wouldn't be my friend for long.

Have you ever had a friend diss you in favor of your ex?


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