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Kelly Clarkson can't contain her excitement about her upcoming wedding to fiance Brandon Blackstock, and it's so cute. She's been gushing right and left about their plans, admitting that she's thinking about setting the date for sometime this fall, and even confessing that she's already had a bit of a planning-related breakdown (oh, honey, I hear you!).
Her latest big reveal sounds a bit more zen. Despite having "a lot to plan," she tells People mag she's "not going to be a bridezilla." She vows she's "going to be the opposite." Her illustrated example: "I'm going to be like, 'Oh, the cake fell off the porch, that's fine. Cool, something's on fire, cool, whatever, we'll move it. We'll get married over there.' I'm going to be that girl." Ha, aww, cute! But, ehhh, not so fast with swearing you'll never be a bridezilla, Kel ...
I'm sure MANY brides may vow to be the opposite of a bridezilla. (Really, who goes into a wedding actually wanting to be one?!) When I got engaged last year, I promised myself I wasn't going to be one of those reality show or, worse yet, real-life brides I'd heard nightmare stories about who had nervous breakdowns over the timing of the reception dinner or a future sister-in-law taking her shoes off to dance. As I've been planning, I've definitely been more laidback than some brides when it's come to certain things ... and maybe more of a perfectionist with other things. (Yep, I'm still editing our decor and dinner menu with three months to go ...!) But overall, I'm doing my best to roll with the punches.
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Still, I can't say I've been the "opposite" of a bridezilla. And I don't want to be that. After all, the opposite of bridezilla is ... doormat! Case in point: A recently married friend told me she wanted to please everyone so much that she ended up with a dozen bridesmaids -- when she really just wanted a couple. I've heard other stories of brides taking a complete backseat to major aspects of their wedding day -- the entertainment, the food, the venue! -- because they didn't want to rock the boat. There's a real problem with that.
No, you don't want to be a control freak who tweaks out over every little detail or disaster. But you do want to be empowered to speak up, and steer the plans per your fiance's and your vision, so that you're as happy as possible with the outcome. 'Course, being a chilled-out, relaxed, stress-free bride on the day of is a whole different story. I hope Kelly's that way, and fingers crossed I'll manage to be, too!
How do you feel about the word "bridezilla"? Were you one, the opposite, or somewhere in between, and how so?
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