Happy news out of Hollywood this weekend -- actress Olivia Wilde is engaged to Saturday Night Live comedian Jason Sudeikis, 37. According to Us Weekly, Sudeikis popped the question right after the holidays, and she said yes.
It's not the most surprising engagement. They've been dating for about a year, and have seemed blissfully happy ever since. Last month after one of Sudeikis' performances on SNL Wilde tweeted, "Nothing puts a smile on my face like the love of my life dancing in a tracksuit and curly wig."
So by all accounts it's been a flurry of fun and romance that has made them tying the knot the logical next step. It's their rocky romantic pasts, however, that may be what make their future together so strong.
They've both been divorced before. She was married for almost nine years to filmmaker Tao Ruspoli (she married him at 18), and he to 30 Rock writer Kay Cannon for about six years. A source told the magazine, "They've both been through it before and this has just felt right from the get go. Everyone is happy for them."
I think there's an assumption that if you get divorced once you may be are fickle, or you don't take marriage seriously, and will walk when the proverbial going gets tough. In my experience, however, the people I have known who have gotten divorced -- especially after getting married at a young age -- have been more committed to making marriage work the second time than ever. They know how painful divorce is, and they want to make sure the next time it's going to last. They have a better idea of who they are and what they want.
That definitely sounds like the case for Wilde. After the breakup of her marriage to Ruspoli she talked about how divorce, though painful, also had benefits:
And the good thing about getting divorced young -- if there is a good thing -- is that it makes you realize there's no schedule in life. It blasts you wide open and frees you to be honest with yourself.
The fact that they've both been through it will hopefully just make them stronger.
So congratulations to the couple. I predict the second time is going to be the charm for them.
Do you think a previous divorce can make a marriage stronger?
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