Now that Kim Kardashian is pregnant, everyone seems to have an opinion on what it means. For her, for Kanye, for their careers, for the baby's career, for society, for married -- and unmarried -- people everywhere. As eyebrow-raising as it is that she's having the kiddo with Kanye whilst still technically married to ex Kris Humphries, we're at least over the part about her getting preggers without being wed ... right? At least Susan Reimer, writing in The Baltimore Sun, seems to think so. She says, "Celebs regularly put the baby carriage before marriage, and [Kim] is just the latest. ... We long ago stopped stigmatizing unwed mothers."
Hmm, maybe we've stopped stigmatizing unwed mothers like Kim Kardashian! But has the taboo surrounding unwed mothers who aren't tabloid staples really disappeared?
I'm not so sure. Kim and sister Kourtney and Jessica Simpson and Kristin Cavallari and their ilk are one thing, but if you found out someone you knew from college or high school was doing the same thing they are -- first having a baby, and then getting hitched or choosing to NOT getting hitched -- wouldn't it make for a biiiit more tongue-wagging? Totally.
Women I sat down to a holiday dinner with were clucking on and on about how so many celebs are doing everything assbackwards these days and they set a bad example for the non-famous. But I beg to differ. Maybe it sounds crazy to say, but celebs like Kim and Kourtney and Jessica and Kristin may all actually be doing us a favor. Their brave decisions to have a baby (or two!) before saying "I do" are not only chipping away at the stigma of unwed motherhood, but they're changing how we feel about marriage. As in when to marry or if to marry at all.
Don't get me wrong. The way some women -- famous or not -- are choosing to have kids and getting hitched on a non-traditional timeline isn't necessarily for everyone, now or ever. But if the way they're doing things ultimately has a way of making another woman's "backasswards" life a bit easier (and I definitely think it will), we gotta give credit where credit is due. We may have Kim Kardashian, at least in part, to thank.
Do you think celebs like Kim are chipping away at the stigma surrounding unwed mothers?
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