Bethenny Frankel Reportedly Still Living With Her Ex & Here’s Why It’s Not Crazy

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bethenny Frankel & Jason Hoppy

By now you've heard of the latest celebrity marriage to bite the dust. Real Housewives of New York alum Bethenny Frankel and husband Jason Hoppy are reportedly divorcing after nearly three years of marriage. Though, more surprising than the split are claims that the couple is still living together despite being separated. Yes, it's a crazy notion to most people. How do you stomach still living with the man you hate enough to divorce? It's not as crazy as it sounds. I actually get it. Read this and you will too. Here are five great reasons for continuing to live with your ex:

  1. You don't want to lose your best friend. Just because you don't want to be married to him any longer doesn't mean you don't still like or even love him. If he is your closest confidante, it's hard to give up that bond. It may take time for you to let him go completely and that's okay.
  2. Bills, bills, bills. It's hard enough to keep one household afloat, but two is nearly impossible in these tough economic times. It takes two incomes to pay most mortgages, so it makes good financial sense in a lot of cases. 
  3. The kids still need you both. It's no secret that divorce is hardest on small children. They are used to mommy and daddy being together and they don't want that to change. It makes sense to delay physically moving out until you feel that your kids are ready for it.
  4. You are not sure it's really over. There is no shame in being unsure. Even after you've told your friends you are breaking up and called a divorce lawyer, it's ok to have second thoughts. This could be a very, very rough patch you want to try and work through.
  5. You can both get used to seeing the other move on. It's hard seeing an ex be happy with someone else. While it may be awkward at first to watch him get ready for a date, at least it's not some big secret. In a way, this can help ease you into that new reality of him looking for a new love and vice versa.

Of course, there are just as many pitfalls to staying under the same roof. Anger, jealousy, and resentment will undoubtedly bubble to the surface too. But for those couples who choose this route, it could be a way to slowly and amicably close the chapter on what once was a very significant part of your life.

Do you think it's ever a good idea to continue living with your ex? 

 

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nonmember avatar Mary

Uhmmm that is a tough question to answer, it would be really tough living with an ex who cheated, that would be a no-no, in this case Bethenny and Jason just have had problems because they have different perspectives in life, they don't know how to communicate and are too different, but there is one thing that is the same for both and it is their love for Bryn. I say they could live together (kinda like roomates) until one of them gets into another relationship, that is when things get really complicated.

bills... billsfan1104

They are not divorced yet, so they are not technically exes.

nonmember avatar April

Dovorce is a process that happens over time. I continued to live with my ex husband for several months due to the fact that he chose to end our marriage while I was finishing nursing school. He agreed to let me stay until I found a full time job once I was licensed. It was not easy living with a person who did not want me around. It was best for our child since we were able to move into one temporary home into I qualified for a home loan of my own. Things would have been bad had I moved out while making minimum wage while attempting to rebuild my life. Most likely one of them is staying while other arrangements for housing are being made. I wouldn't read anything into the fact that they still live together merely a few weeks after they announced their separation.

dusky... dusky_rose

With my ex, no... but it might work for some people.

Amand... Amanda0712

I lived with my ex for about a month after we separated. It was hell. I had found out he cheated and had no where to go. I decided to move out of state. So I stayed there until the day I left. Maybe if there wasn't so many hurt feelings, it would have been easier.

mrswi... mrswillie

If it works for some, great. Not for me,

sukainah sukainah

I can't imagine living with an ex, might as well try to work on the marriage for those reasons listed, though.  Unless it's hopeless.  I don't know.  To each their own

Madel... Madelaine

If it works for them, thats great.

MamaB... MamaBear2cubs

No not something I would try

early... earlybird11

My husband and I have actually had this convo. We spoke about living together for the sake of our entire family unit as well as the indiviuals who are involved, and to come up with a plan immediatly on who will leave, when, what is the cut out, rules etc . It seems sad to even discuss but we have had too many friends on our couch after a bitter fight that left to a decision to divorce. Some were too proud and went through with it. Some weren't and realized the er of their ways, but we knew that wasn't fair to put anyone on anothers couch when we have both put equal love, money and energy into this marriage and home and our child. Of course this would be null and void if their was danger in us living together.. but for nor, happily married and hope to never try out plan b

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