Oops! Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez Couldn't Make That First Breakup Stick

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Hold on, ladies. He's still unavailable. Maybe.
Anyone over the age of 21 who cares about the on-again, off-again, are-they, aren’t-they romance between Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez may need to reevaluate their celebrity fandom. They’re cute kids and all, but the neon flashing word is “kids” and once you step fully into adulthood, the romances of the Disney Channel set seem kinda been there, done that. But maybe that’s just me.

I can’t dodge all pop world gossip—I am, after all, a sometimes entertainment writer and mother to a one-time Bieberholic to boot—so I notice that the pair have been sighted together again after an unseemly breakup in early November. Rumors of their reconciliation are flying and most recently, they were spotted being all cute and cuddly together on Tuesday night at Dream Hotel’s Marble Lane in NYC. 

Gawkers remarked how happy Gomez, 20, and the Bieb, 18, seemed and apparently they even kissed! Swoon. Truly adorable, it is. And I sure hope it works out for them, though I think the expectation that this will be a forever and ever amen love affair is a bit of a stretch, so their adoring public can probably just relax and enjoy it for what it is: two cute young people being a precious (and, may I add, totally photogenic) couple for as long as they can stand the sight of one another. Oh, and apparently Taylor Swift doesn't approve. So there's that, too. 

But I can’t help remembering that unwritten rule that the first breakup is just a test drive. It just never seems to take. Barring anything involving the police, an angry parent, or the brandishing of contradictory paternity test results, most of us have had at least one relationship we tried to end and it just would not stick. He was too cute. Or he suddenly became sweet again. Or the flood of memories was overwhelming. Or you were together a really long time. Or the sex was friggin’ amazing. Whatever it was, it reshaped the shambles of love into a happy, if only temporary, twosome.

How many times do you try to make it work before you finally let it go? That’s a rhetorical question, of course. The real answer is as many times as you’re willing to give the other person the benefit of the doubt and rally the energy to give it another go. Heaven knows I was, once upon a time, the reigning queen of positive, this-time-it’s-going-to-work thinking. Love doesn’t always conquer all, but it sure does make for a nice, pithy catchphrase.

Justin and Serena will have to learn that for themselves, of course. I suspect this is not the last installment of the adventures in the young, hot, and ambiguously coupled. I say there are two, maybe three more breakups and makeups on the horizon before they become distant memories on each other’s dating resume. But until then, I wish them a good time in the process.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you just couldn’t make that darn breakup stick?


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